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My partner went out tonight and gave me a shady excuse (beehaw.org)
submitted 1 year ago by neamhsplach@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org
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They took off on their bike earlier and when they came back I asked where they'd been. They gave me an odd answer and I smelled a rat. I pointed out the inconsistencies and still they doubled down on the "why don't you trust me". I was unwell with worry at this point, I didn't know what to expect.

I don't advocate for going through people's data but I was a little bit insane at this point and I needed to know what was going on, consequences be damned. So after they fell asleep I looked at their phone. The last app that had been opened was 2good2go. The fucker had gone and picked up a free burrito without me and tried to hide it from me 🤣

What does it all mean?? Should I confront them or let it slide??

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[–] neamhsplach@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah fuck thank you for commenting this because you're dead right about that last point. I felt possessed, I needed to know what was happening because I just knew they were lying. But going through their phone isn't a trustworthy way of verifying that.

As I mentioned below, I am SO relieved that it was a burrito and nothing else. I just find the lying so weird.

They're the one who complains about me ordering fast food too! Maybe that's why they hid it, so they wouldn't seem hypocritical??

[–] Dee@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah, that's probably the reason if they give you crap about it like that. Honestly, it seems like a great thing to work out in couples therapy. Having a neutral mediator there might go a long way. Idk your situation or how much that makes sense (more sense for marriage, less so for dating). But there's a line of communication somewhere that's been broken and needs to be mended to move forward. Best of luck OP.