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Believe me, I KNOW that feeling - I have made posts that are among some of the most heavily-downvoted in an entire community's history:-).
Yeah in that case, downvoting AND commenting is fine. I didn't want to be too long-winded (although I did type up a MUCH longer reply, but then I deleted it all in favor of the above simplicity:-), but definitely there are cases where downvoting is appropriate: e.g. what about polls that say like "upvote if you agree, downvote if you disagree" - voting is mere participation there, not a sign of unfriendliness? And in Reddit there were certain communities where the voting metrics were SUPPOSED to be flipped from the norm.
In general many downvotes means that you might not be a "fit" for what the community is trying to do? I dunno.
Not necessarily - some people may even agree with you, but not like the language (especially more puritanical folks), or some may prioritize the process over content, like react to your tone over your statement, or whatever.
But that's what I am trying to tell you: perhaps it is that way on Mbin, but it has not been that way for people on Lemmy for months now. Well, tbf it is for those on Lemmy.World that is still running 0.19.3. This information is now ONE SINGLE CLICK AWAY when you are at the comment. I'll try to see if I can dig up an example, though it will come from one of my Lemmy alts.
Anyway, do as you want, I guess I was saying that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar, but I don't want to actually tell you what to do, just provide that as a thought so that you don't feel so powerless: YOU can control what OTHERS think, to some degree, by altering HOW you state something. It's a thought to consider anyway (e.g., did I just encourage you to think that, by stating it like that?:-).
So you get a notification now if a comment of yours gets removed, or if you get banned in a community?
It's not like I can't be nice. I am nice the majority of times. If I'm not, it's usually because of the comment I'm replying to. I'm not gonna kiss people's ass if they hold disgusting opinions and I won't stop speaking out against that either. If that makes me unpopular here, so be it. I just wish there was more things on here that wasn't this political extremism so that I could spend more time on that instead.
As for altering peoples opinions... I don't see the point anymore. I tried this for many years. Now that we're almost certainly going to face a climate collapse and all its repercussions for humanity I really don't see the point. Extremism will rise even further with all the challenges that will arise in the near future. Me wasting time and energy on trying to get people to be nicer on some fringe internet platform is not going to change that.
I'm still trying to figure out the other comment - I wrote out a long one but it won't let me send it, and anyway people don't want to read that much. So just responding to this one here:
DON'T do that. You are better than this. Nobody "makes" you do anything.
Also, you lead by example, not by arguing at people.
A few days ago I took a break from social media. It was... much more difficult than I expected, even for just one day. That dopamine addiction is real yo. Be careful. When I say that you might want to take a break, I don't mean that bc I actively want to shame you or whatever, but bc I legitimately think it may help. When you return, you will have a different focus - it will be fun again. Make sure to do something else in the meantime, like read books, touch grass, converse more with people irl. You won't regret it - at least, I never do whenever I've tried. Use social media - don't let it use you.