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I know intellectually that's true but in my cursed heart I really don't want to be nice to people who are, like, barely approaching a reasonable standard of behavior. Not just with smoking. Like, littering, taking up too much space on the subway, whatever.
It's just frustrating how everyone (including me some of the time, I'm sure) is just like an emotionally fragile toddler. Except if you're not nice to them, they might shoot you.
edit: Thinking about it, my parents were always like "You don't get rewarded for doing what's expected of you", so that's probably why rewarding someone for doing the basics feels insane to me.
My parents said the same thing over 15 years ago, but this kind of shit just isn't true. When you own your home or business, doing what's expected of you results in your investments retaining or even increasing their value. That's why the owner works 12 hours a day, and the homeowner fixes the broken windows.
When you're just living or working somewhere but you don't have a stake in it, what do you actually get out of your efforts? Communities of all types, big and small, are held together by the stake we have in them. If people have no stake, they have no reason to care. This is why you pay employees, and this is why parents should thank their kids for doing the damn chores.
Problem is so many people believe that you don't deserve thanks for "doing what's expected" while also refusing to allow young people the opportunity to become invested in their communities. This is why the social contract is destroyed and no one cares anymore. Why should they? The youth will never get to be part of their community the way we are. They will never benefit from it the way we do... Unless things change.
I guess what I took away from my upbringing is the rewards are intrinsic. You don't get a cookie for cleaning your room, but now your room is clean. You don't get $20 for passing your math test, but now you (hopefully) learned some math and don't have to worry about it anymore.
The owner in your example is the same. His rewards are inherent to the action.
Covering someone with praise and rewards when they do stuff they're supposed to do anyway I guess works, but seems unsustainable. If they're only doing it for external validation, how are they going to feel when that's absent?
Saying "thank you" for doing chores isn't what I had in mind. It was an overly effusive "omg you did so good I'm so happy here's a pony you didn't throw your cigarettes on the ground! You're such a good boy and very handsome!"