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you're assuming that because you don't have to live with the reality.
add in the constant awareness that most rapists occur by men against women and most men are stronger than women.
you wouldn't like theae solicitations or straight up molestation and assaults if you were constantly in danger of being raped and being reminded that men found you attractive or available.
Been raped twice by two different women, I'd still be fine with it. If I let my experiences with women (that + 3 serious relationships ended in them cheating) cloud my judgement of the entire gender I'd be an "incel," so I don't, I give each individual a fair shake because my past trauma isn't their fault.
What are you talking about, I said that I as a man would love to be cat called not that I would love that as a woman . I never receive compliment and I can assure you that I would love to be cat called.I don't say that what you said is false (it s not), just that its not what I was talking about.
"What are you talking about..."
you are not talking about getting catcalled, you are saying that if you got complimented, you would like it.
that is not what is happening to womenn getting catcalled; they are not receiving compliments, they are being harassed.
If you were catcalled multiple times a day every day you wouldn't find it as fun, since these are not components so much as an attempt to engage with you personally, which is time-consuming and doesn't benefit you, it only benefits the harasser, especially with the accompanying implication of rape or violence with each incident of harassment throughout the day.
I was talking about being cat called and I already got your point on how its horrible for woman to be always cat called because of the intimidation and threat that it implie.
...then you insisted that you would enjoy being catcalled, so I wanted to clarify that you wouldn't enjoy being catcalled; you would enjoy a different situation in which you are occasionally complimented in good faith without the threat of violence, which is a completely different situation than what women go through everyday being catcalled.
you wouldn't enjoy being catcalled.
you would enjoy receiving occasional good-faith compliments without the lurking threat of violence.