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I don't know if anyone here has been through this.. but I eat a lot of fast food because I have a fear of using anything to cook, if it's for me to make something like bread and butter, that's fine, it's just a fork that I need, but when it comes to using a furnace or those kind of things, I just have a fear I might mess up somehow and start a fire or something.. I know it sounds stupid but it's a nightmare I have in my head for some reason =/, I thought I'd try getting over it so I could cook my own meals and get more healthy but thar's a barrier stopping me.. can anyone who has been through this give me any advice on it?

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[–] scarabine@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 20 hours ago

You might mess up! That's normal. Even experienced professionals do. That might be part of your apprehension? Like, if those experienced professionals can goof up, imagine what an inexperienced person might do?

But, the reality is that you'll mess up the same when you mess up. It'll be a little cut here, a little singe there. Your kitchen won't explode, you won't catch on fire. All in all, you stop thinking of some things as mess-ups and start thinking of them as just a normal outcome.

Here's what I would recommend doing if you want to practice in safe ways:

  • Practice mixing drinks. Not necessarily cocktails! Like, mix some herbs and juice in with a club soda. Tada, that's cooking.
  • Practice making salads with take-home kits. Add some vinegar or oil and herbs in addition to what you've got out of the kit.
  • Make hot drinks: teas, coffees, things like that. Eventually start making your own syrups for them: look up simple syrup recipes and infusions.
  • Get frozen pizzas or other frozen foods. Buy extra shredded cheese and Italian seasoning. Cook them as normal except add the cheese and seasoning on top before you do.

Here's what I would recommend if you want to increase your own personal safety:

  • Get a fire extinguisher and put it somewhere obvious in your kitchen.
  • Look for "cut resistant" gloves. They help protect your hands when you're working with knives and stuff.
  • Get some timers with magnets on them and practice using them. The most likely way something'll catch fire is if you're distracted and timers will help you avoid that.
  • Get some silicone mitts and handles for the oven. They're incredibly heat resilient!

I'd also maybe just say familiarize yourself with cooking enough to demystify it? Like, marathon watch Good Eats or Iron Chef or something? Put it on in the background while you do other stuff, and just get used to seeing kitchens and food in action?

Fundamentally though this might be worth talking to a therapist about, because it could be that you've got some kind of reason (maybe more rational than you imagine) to have this apprehension. If that's the case the first step is, honestly, talking it out with someone and not ignoring it and forcing yourself to do something you're uncomfortable with.