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It was my birthday a few days ago and all I can think about is how I'm still a virgin (lemmynsfw.com)

submitted 2 weeks ago by Streammy@lemmynsfw.com to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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I feel like past a certain age everyone doesn't like growing older. For me I have that same feeling plus the added pressure that every year I go from being an X year old virgin to an X+1 one year old virgin. I'm about to finish collage and go into the work field which given my internship I can already tell I won't have much of a chance at meeting new people even less girls.

Everytime I find someone and start getting along with them really well. I think to my self this will finally be the year which I stop being a virgin. But it just has not worked out. Of course I dont go into a relationship with the sole goal of losing my V-card but it is something that crosses my mind.

I am 24 year old and I am still a virgin.

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[–] Nemo 79 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Virginity isn't real. It's a label used to shame women by its absence and men by its presence, but doesn't say anything useful about a person.

For you, you're still young. Barely done growing, biologically. Your life isn't over, it's just now beginning.

[–] Flummoxed@lemmy.world 14 points 2 weeks ago

I love this. So true. I hope OP can take this to heart.

Why do we do this shit to each other?

The saddest thing is that it's usually an attempt to feel better than someone else, not by lifting yourself up but by pushing others down.

[–] Streammy@lemmynsfw.com 7 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

In some aspects I do feel like it is beginning but also the college life is ending and it felt like these were supposed to be my wild years. And while I did experience many things, sexual relations were not one of them. And it feels like I've lost my chance

[–] burgersc12@mander.xyz 14 points 2 weeks ago

Bro you're 24 the only way you've lost your chance is if you decide to give up. There's plenty of people who meet someone in their 40s and are happy nonetheless.

[–] Nemo 7 points 2 weeks ago

My life only gets more wild the longer I live. College is a good time to start having sex but hardly the only time.

[–] Minnels@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago

I had my first real gf at 27. Needless to say I had given up years ago. A couple of years later she broke my heart and I started to look for someone else even if I thought I would never get over her. I had a couple of hook ups and a crazy person (super fun sex but not someone I would share my life with!) before giving up on love. 2 months after ending it with crazy person I thought that was the end for intimate relations when I found my current gf and we are happy together today with a son.

Every time I found someone, it was when I had given up. Maybe it made me relax more in the company of girls or it was something else, I don't know but I just didn't care if things would work out or not. I think they can sense that.