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Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they'd be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It's a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don't appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn't purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I'm not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I'd see what y'alls opinion on the matter is.

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[–] crapwittyname@lemm.ee 14 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

The misgendering, and the fact that it was accidental, is the point of the post. If anything OP is sharing her correct gender with "even more people", and creating a discussion where we can think about how to stop this happening in future both to this individual, and on Lemmy in general. Why would you want to shut that down?

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone -3 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

It could easily have been anonymised. The conversation can happen without misgendering someone a second time around.

Literally just edit the person's name out of the image, and boom, same discussion, but this time without repeating the same mistake

[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol 7 points 1 week ago

You are correct I should have anonymized the post, will keep that in mind in the future.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I don't necessarily agree with your previous message, but I do agree it's a bit unfair to include the identity of the person who was misgendered in this post. It isn't even a guarantee that they were the person who took serious issue with what OP said. They may not have even reported OP. So it seems unfair to call them out, even if the intent was to provide context.