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How to stop thinking like 'first is special' in relationships. (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 month ago by SweetCitrusBuzz@beehaw.org to c/relationshipanarchy

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So something we have been thinking about recently is the 'first is special' toxic idea of like it's better if some{one/many} does a particular thing with some{one/many} first before any others or just before some{one/many} else even if they aren't the first and how to stop thinking this way.

Do y'all have any ideas/suggestions on how to do this or work on it (slowly)?

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[–] punkisundead 1 points 1 month ago

Because people can put a lot of pressure and expectations on themselves and others in order to get to the thing quickly or place way too much importance on the thing rather than just letting it happen if it happens.

I feel like that is the thing I would focus on. Special occasions happen all the time, so finding better ways to deal with them would be my advice instead of devaluing some of those special situations.

Also yeah I agree ,just because something is a first, its not automatically better or more important (but it can be).