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[–] wirelesswire@lemmy.zip 54 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Be direct. "It's been great, but I have other things to take care of (or get to bed if night). See you later!"

[–] return2ozma@lemmy.world 31 points 2 months ago (5 children)

They literally asked "oh, what do you have to take care of?" I said "I have an oil change scheduled" and they said "oh I can go with you"

[–] Ledivin@lemmy.world 51 points 2 months ago (1 children)

"No thanks"

Look, I understand, I have social anxiety, but you just need to say what you want and move on. Of they don't like it, then they don't like it - who cares?

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This. I think this person has just shown that it's really important to set boundaries with them, and not worry if they like it.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 5 points 2 months ago

Or better yet, don’t assume whether they’ll like it or not.

[–] riskable@programming.dev 24 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Tell them, "Sure! You can ride in the trunk 👍"

[–] cabron_offsets@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago (2 children)

“My wife and I planned something special for tonight and I have to do my anal douche.”

[–] return2ozma@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago

Well, I am gay so... you're not wrong.

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 8 points 2 months ago

"You're not going to believe this, but I brought my anal douche, just in case you wanted to douche together!"

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 17 points 2 months ago

That person desperately needs someone in their life to tell them the truth.

“I am done hanging out. I need to be alone now”

Some people are autistic and as an autistic person myself believe me when I say there is like one in ten thousand people who will actually tell the truth, and they only do it once in a blue moon.

Be that person.

[–] Gingerlegs@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

“That would be fun but after that I have to xxxxxxx for my mom, then….xxxxxx”

Imply the ‘no’ - that would be butttttt nope.