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How do you get over a crush? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by ComicalMayhem@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Say hypothetically I've already shot my shot and was shot down, how would I go about getting over this (without rebounding to other people or whatever)?

Edit: Thanks everyone, for all the comments, support, and advice! Majority rules a tie between time and distractions lol. Seriously though thanks y'all

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[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Crushes tend to seem unattractive after you learn everything else about them.

[–] captainskipper@lemmy.ml 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Absolutely. You should go ahead and find out any little detail. It's best to follow them around so you don't miss anything.

To get over them, of course.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Non-intrusively at least. I didn't mean it like "pry into them" or anything. But it's safe to say that feeling a certain way about absolutely everything about someone is so unlikely that being too drawn to someone is most likely a sign of the other person's shallowness, whether that's intentional or not.

[–] prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Right, so be super duper secretive about your observation of them.

If they notice you need to INSIST they’re just crazy and seeing things.

See if you can hire a private investigator

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago

What do you think dates are for?