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I don't think that is what they said. They reach out before hitting the breaking point which is a very mature thing to do ^^
This is definitely a thing I'm working on
Slow down, cousin. You've misread. Nobody here is arguing for suppressing emotions. What I'm saying is, I don't have a support structure that's reliable in crisis. The answer to that is reaching out to my unreliable support structure well in advance, to get the support I need when issues first arise. I can't afford to bottle, because as you said, bottles explode, and I can't survive that. Feelings gotta be processed as soon as possible, just in case the first attempt, or the second, or the third, don't pan out.
I thought you were being pretty clear, but maybe because it reminds me of how I'm working through my own stuff. I used to suppress a lot of my emotions, thoughts, and feelings and just say whatever.
Now I find it better to focus my time trying to talk to and help people. The intrusive thoughts come less than they used to. I notice a difference when they start coming on stronger and I make better choices instead of living in a bottle. I've been focusing on my health: exercise, nutrition, and sleep are 3 great pillars to build on.