kofe

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[–] kofe@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

If the follow up to you saying you're done is them demanding to keep going, that is coercive and fucked up. I wouldn't suggest lying in response unless you never plan to see them again, though, or if you feel safe and plan to address it later. It's just as fucked up to keep up with the lie afterwards as it is to be coercive, imo. Both play coercive, indirect ways of refusing respect, and the tit-for-tat dynamic risks setting up a breeding grounds of resentment for at least the person maintaining a lie. It also denies the coercive person the opportunity for growth.

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

The fact that you're registered is wild to me. One of the few things my state has right is having open primaries imo

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My state banned ranked choice voting by an insane margin because it was worded like "only citizens should be allowed to vote, and each citizen only gets one vote each!" Literally two Google searches would clear it up if people had more critical thinking skills

 

I was rushing to get these done between school and work, but I kept each of the 5 questions under 3 minutes if y'all are curious how I interpreted them! I heard lines might be longer than usual today, so make sure you've got water and some snacks. Hope to see you at the polls!

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I was rushing to get these done between school and a work trip, but I kept each of the 5 questions to under 3 minutes here: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL39NG7BfoHIhrNMQNXj71fMYjIdGob0G5&si=T-xe_nqX2EONwHq0

I hope this helps! I'll do a more comprehensive look after we get results in. See you at the polls!

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Are they arguing it wasn't random though? I mean Shakespeare had to think through the plot and everything, not just scribble nonsense on a page

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago
[–] kofe@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

I'm subbed to my local NPR's daily top news stories. Highly recommend folks in the US look to see if their local station has a similar program or find the closest one.

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago

This gave me a weird reminder of an elementary teacher I had that wore this animal print often (not like leopard print, but actual leopards on it?)

In hindsight, your question is spot on. I was an extremely miserable child to even take note enough to still remember that in a critical way. Not that I'm critical of it now, and I never said it to the teacher or anything. I gave her trouble enough in other ways

I wish I remembered her name now. Poor lady. She was nice

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

69% of the time, it works every time

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Again with insults? I don't think I'll be continuing to reply. Have a good one.

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I see where you're coming from. It could branch out to any person or organization, though, wouldn't you think? Like I brought up in my original comment, I "stage" my home for myself, firstly, because it makes me feel comfortable. I also do a lot of video calls for work, school, and with friends. So I wonder where the delineation is. When and why does it become inauthentic?

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

I'm in a charged enough environment that seeing your aggressive language is too much for me to read beyond three sentences. It doesn't seem you read my full comment based on those three, anyway. You don't need to reply or repeat yourself but if you don't mind clarifying, would you mind considering running it by ChatGPT or something to make sure it's civil first? I don't think my comment warranted this attitude. Thank you.

 

Hey y'all - I'm starting a video series breaking down our statewide ballot questions since I looked last week and had no idea about some of them. I'd really appreciate any support you can give, whether it's watching, commenting, or following my channel!

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fuck the manosphere (lemmy.world)
submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by kofe@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
 

I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I'm feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more "capable" and "logical" on me. That gender studies are "indoctrination." I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that's really what he thinks. It wouldn't be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I'm grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into "fuck all men" mode, but I know it's not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there's feminist men, enbies, etc. We're all just people and we're not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I'm still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they'd like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y'all! I've been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I'll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! 💜

 

I know it's not the most engaging or thought provoking question, but I'm having a bad day and would really like to find a space to vent

 

I was noot prepared for this intensity

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