amio

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[–] amio@kbin.social 6 points 6 months ago

You giant nerd, you. :)

Not so much manga and anime on my youtube, even though I'm also a bit of a weeb.

[–] amio@kbin.social 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Technically true, which is the most generous I could possibly be. It is not good advice. Telling someone to live more brightly is, begging your pardon, freaking useless.

Edit: to be clear, a lot of the rest of your advice isn't bad or anything. I just really hate this particular phrasing. It will not help, I guarantee it.

[–] amio@kbin.social 21 points 6 months ago (3 children)

My youtube recs would mostly just out me as a huge fucking nerd who's into cooking, I think it may be a rare W.

[–] amio@kbin.social 4 points 6 months ago

Reclassify meaning "still protected, we just don't consider it the literal antichrist anymore"

Pretty underwhelming but I guess it's better than nothing.

[–] amio@kbin.social 6 points 6 months ago

Not in the very rare case where the positivity is warranted because the product is decent, appropriately priced, and not too shittified.

[–] amio@kbin.social 2 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Life is too short to be miserable. You will die the same way unless you take action to course correct and start living more brightly.

bruh

[–] amio@kbin.social 12 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Been there, sort of. Lifelong depression does tend to make you "negative" and apparently some people hate that. NTs are not necessarily genius communicators who've worked at it a lot, it's just that most people per definition tend to communicate their preferred/"natural" way. This means that whatever is pissing them off is a) not necessarily wrong, b) not necessarily what/why they think it is, and c) something you'll likely have to work at whether you're "in the wrong" or not.

Kinda depressing, eh?

Unfortunately, sometimes negativity is contagious - sharing something negative with someone is likely to worsen their mood. I won't conjecture why that is - I can only really say that whenever people dump long lists of everything wrong with the world on me, I rarely feel great about it afterwards. Negativity is often warranted, usually realistic, sometimes funny in specific ways etc., but mostly it is still just negativity.

Try and be mindful about this: what are you communicating? Is the content or tone negative? Did you get onto a negative track from something more positive? It is not easy, but you could unironically put up a visible reminder. Don't overdo the self-censoring either, though, that's also not healthy.

Also, are you taking up a lot of space in the conversation relative to others? This can add some friction too if the disparity is big enough. I have been both the loud person (usually from boredom) and the person getting annoyed at someone individually being like 50% of a chat. One man's dead chat is a reasonable level of activity for another, after all.

(All the above is personal experience - reasonably sure the buzzkill stuff is an actual thing but I wasn't able to find a citation or anything.)

[–] amio@kbin.social 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I don't see it either, but I'm sure the .ml gentleperson is only too psyched to explain.

[–] amio@kbin.social 7 points 6 months ago

If you have a perfectly normal (non-pathological) lack of confidence then pretending to be confident may allegedly help you. A cynic could remark that that requires knowing what that looks like and being able to pull it off, while almost nobody offering that particular "advice" seems to feel a huge need to elaborate on it.

It's a cliché.

[–] amio@kbin.social 6 points 6 months ago

It's not all that far removed from shit people say completely without a trace of irony.

[–] amio@kbin.social 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

That's fair. Sounds like a very reasonable way to explain it to the kids' parents, too, if you get the occasion.

[–] amio@kbin.social 22 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Maybe they could start using an engine that is more recent than the Cretaceous.

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