MoistKinkajou
joined 1 year ago
I wrote up a long thoughtful response that seems to have not made it through (prob growing pains) and don't have time to rewrite, so here is a shorter version; as best I can.
Not sure what your first paragraph means. I am not trans so hesitate to speak on the trans experience, but will do my best.
Others pointed out good vs bad faith, which I did not specify, but I was thinking of good faith discourse (even from bigots). "Trans are mutants - full stop" comments are not what I'm thinking. "Trans are mutants because they mutate their body" comments are more what I'm thinking. I do not jump to assume that person is trolling or (intentionally) pushing propaganda, but moreso full of, and operating off of misinformation and don't understand the difference between "mutant gene" and "body mutation".
"Piercings, tattoos, and really all surgeries are body mutations. Are you saying you think that women with breast cancer shouldn't be able to have breast removal surgery, if necessary, just so that trans men can't have breast removal surgery?" is the thought path I go down for a comment like that. I think it is important to say those things to the person, so they also have a chance to critically think about the topic, rather than have Fox news tell them what to think. Pretty easy to discuss and defend the pro-trans side of that IMO.
It's a done debate
If the debate was done, we wouldn't still have anti-trans legislation being shoved down our throat. Debate being done in one community (leftists - which, is it really over in the broad leftist community?), does not mean the debate is over. Acting like the debate is over is ONLY detrimental to the trans community, as this can lead to the trans community not having a spot at the debate table, and you can be guaranteed the bigots WILL BE at the debate table. The trans community should have a spot at the debate table.
I was raised in a cult, your second paragraph is almost exactly what they teach their youth as a means to silence facts about their history and dissenting opinions, keeping the echo chamber what they want.
To be very clear, I am comparing echo chambers, not saying trans community = cult.
Here is your second paragraph slightly edited:
Mormon people don't need to "think critically" about why they disagree with anti-mormon comments. It's not "healthy" for mormon people to be constantly reminded that there's a % of the population that want them gone. It's not ignorance, it's a done debate [look at all our official Mormon church resources which say so (echo chamber)]. It's a waste to debate people who's aim is to open the dialogue up to extremist viewpoints [like separation of church and state and approval of anti-family communities (this is what they call LGBTQ+ to sound less bigoted)].
Dangerous game.
I am all for safe spaces, as long as the people participating in them don't act like the content in the safe space is the only content/opinions/facts that exist, as does the Mormon church.
Trolls and propaganda bots should be curtailed, I consider this part of growing pains. However, dissenting opinions (in good faith), belong and deserve proper discourse to give the OP the chance to see facts and context that would NEVER come through Fox news.
Not condoning bigotry, but it kind of sounds like you are saying you prefer echo chambers. It is healthy to see opinions you disagree with, even from bigots. Seeing opinions you disagree with allows for critical thinking about why you disagree. Even though ignorance is bliss, it is still ignorance.
I also think the sample size fallacy may come in to play here. i.e. comparison of billions of users (reddit) to tens of thousands (lemmy - post migration, if I understand correctly, previously lemmy was in the thousands user pre migration from reddit).
Damn, I was wrong... ;)
I guess I should also clarify (if it wasn't obvious), I am speaking about enterprise software development at large scale, and probably none of this properly applies to single OSS with 4 devs (or similar).
My intent was not "senior devs ok to be arrogant", but more so give my understanding of why a lot of senior devs come off as arrogant (if code is dumb, it is okay to say it is dumb, and is not a personal attack).
Simply saying "this code is dumb" and walking away is arrogant -- agreed.
Commenting in code review "this code is dumb" and nothing else is arrogant -- agreed.
Saying "this code is dumb" and debating the concepts at play in code, is not arrogance, but is often perceived as ad hominem ("well [dev] invested tons of time and energy on writing that code you just called dumb and is offended" -- why is [dev] working in a silo to the point that the code is trashed in code review on pull request?).
It's hard not to conclude that you are exactly the type of person my original post is about.
Correct, I was trying to give a why, directly from someone often perceived as an arrogant asshole senior dev.
You also state that human emotions don't belong in software development
Maybe it is better to say "feelings belong in process, not code". I consider everything I discussed process. Code taking down prod at 3am is not, but more of an indicator of bad process (in whatever form).
it just displays emotions you feel are justified, while those felt by others are not
This is interesting. My comment doesn't reflect my actual feelings on this topic, but rather my current understanding of this phenomenon I (clearly) struggle with, based on my experience in industry.
My actual feelings align more with "I am blunt and don't care about your feelings. This is a business not a personal project, get over it." and acknowledge that is arrogant, shitty, and not helpful (probably the other fancy words you used too) but saves ME hours upon hours weekly, which I then get to work on my code/tickets during, which is what my job actually is, and is the ACTUAL metric by which success is tracked.
If you are looking for design review, ask an architect (not through PR to main, which most often indicates "ready"), that is their job, not developers. If you ask for my review I will give it, and that is the "to be nice part". If I look and want to comment "this code is dumb -- rant", and I am the proper reviewer, I ask my manager to help me navigate the best way to express myself without coming off as an asshole.
I also acknowledge I do not write the checks, and have many times over written "dumb code" when that is what the business wants. Although I do make sure and be clear that it is dumb code (business people dgaf until the downtime happens tho).
TL;DR; Human emotions don't belong in software development. Code doesn't care about your feelings so neither do senior devs. If you want someone to listen about your feelings, talk to your manager, not other devs while proposing a solution based on feelings. If you can't handle critical criticism of your code/designs/etc, you simply don't belong. If you are pumping shit out that takes down prod at 3am on Sunday, it is exactly that... shit.
It's a problem if you're a junior dev. Junior dev acting like they know everything straight out of college will often just get ignored and pushed sideways in the company (rather than promoting upward).
Junior devs should be properly mentored by a senior dev. Junior devs should never be placed in a position where their code could "cause an outage at 3am on Sunday". If that happens from a junior devs code, that is mentor's fault all the way.
Intermediate devs have more leeway since they have seen some shit and often decide and design based on real industry experience rather than a couple of college courses. However, intermediate devs are often deeply passionate about their projects, especially when they are doing something like "designing specifically so we won't have downtime at 3am on Sunday again because that sucked".
Most humans have an extreme difficult time separating emotion and logic. When intermediate dev above "knows this is right", and passionately debates the topic to no end, even when there is an obvious flaw in the logic, they are often debating based on their feelings and not based on matters of fact. This is a problem, and will come off as arrogance, but most likely is not actual arrogance and they are just caught up in their feelings about how hard they worked on the code/solution and they "feel" (not know) that the solution is correct/best/etc. This is easier than saying "damn, I'm wrong" for most people.
Senior+ devs often have seen shit across multiple softwares and companies allowing for more generic context surrounding issues. Senior+ devs also often depend on who they are conversing with, and often change tact to the situation. Ignore junior devs unless it's their actual job (mentorship). Be a contrarian to intermediate devs, to ensure they are doing real due diligence with their solutions. Heavily debate senior+ devs, as this is often where emergent architecture and design comes from, and all parties come out more knowledgeable. Caveat being: debates must be about the data and facts, with no ad hominem.
There is a major difference in the following statements:
This code is dumb
You are dumb
The former has nothing to do with you, even if you wrote the code. The code would still be dumb if someone else, even me, wrote it. Too many people take criticism of code as personal attacks -- human emotions do not belong in software development, facts and logic do.
I think Twitter is dumb so I never had an "oh shit I also think Elon is dumb and need to leave" moment.
I now definitely relate to what people went through, as Reddit was my single online "social" presence, and I can't in good conscience continue to support them in any way, shape, or form because of the blatant shady attacks against developers.
All that aside, I am super impressed with lemmy (and the fediverse) and kind of bummed it took me until "the big migration" to look into it. I already prefer lemmy 1000% to Reddit after only a couple of days.
I would also MUCH RATHER donate to random cool folk keeping uptime on lemmy instances than, something like, pay reddit monthly for no ads.
I deleted my Reddit account on 6/12 and they just simply didn't process it. Losers
"I'm savvy with programming!!"
Sees Rust -- "NO NOT LIKE THAT!!"
Guess I should start getting familiar with Rust
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