Mohkia

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[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I usually just improvise and wing it. It stresses my husband out I think. He likes to plan. ๐Ÿ˜†

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

Ah yes! How could i forget about waiting mode. This is super fun times right here. 100% recommend!

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Both tech and horses here...uh oh. ๐Ÿ˜‚ alas, to damned expensive for horses and did't get back into tech after i moved to be withvmy husband., decided to randomly pick up horticulture as a career choice instead.

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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by Mohkia@lemmy.world to c/aquariums@lemmy.world
 

May have impulse purchased a group of these Hara jerdoni aka anchor catfish. They only get about an inch and could not resist! Just wanted to share because they are cool little fish.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

I try really hard to make earlier in the day appointments now because of this. Of course once the appointment or whatever it is is done I still don't do anything else with the day because you know what? All that waiting was exhausting and now I'm spent.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

Thanks for sharing this. I didn't have a name for this feeling until I was diagnosed with ADHD and started learning more about it and all that comes along with it. Though I would not wish this on anyone else it is good to know sometimes that we are not the only ones going through these struggles.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago

Yep! Me too. 3 is the lucky number here! Though I do suspect living with undiagnosed ADHD my whole life led up to the other two. I'm just a bundle of fun over here.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

I feel called out by this statement. At least something is getting done though.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

If I'm not really into what I'm reading the words are just words and I dont really absorb what is being said, if I am interested in what I'm reading however its the opposite and I don't even see words, just knowledge or if its a story I disappear into another world. It's one or the other and I can't force it. I think I must hit some kind of hyperfocus mode when I am able because usually when this happens it's hard to pull myself out of what I'm reading. I need to figure out how to turn that mode on manually. ๐Ÿ˜†

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Not in tech anymore but I definitely do this with my jobs. It really sucks because I could be doing so much more but I just can't be bothered to care after the I got a new job and this is interesting phase. But at least I have these random bits of information that I can pretend to be smart with thst come up at the most inopportune times. ๐Ÿคฃ I feel you on the imposter syndrome.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

At 22 you still have most of your life to live. Be glad you found out now and not at 44. Diagnosed this summer and it's good to know, but at the same time all those years of flailing kind of make me sad. All I can do though is move on from here and I hope you can do the same.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 29 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yep, never was able to understand what I should be studying for exams. Always was learning the wrong things and then would be like where did that question come from? Then id try to just make stuff up to answer.

Got to college and it was even worse. They threw stuff on there from lectures that was not in the text book and of course I wasn't paying attention or wasn't even there. ๐Ÿ™„

of course the classes I was fascinated with I didn't have trouble because I could almost recite the material after fixating on it. Wish I could have done that for all my classes. Maybe I'd have a degree right now. would have been nice to know about ADHD back then. Oh well. Such is life.

[โ€“] Mohkia@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

I don't do a lot of commenting but I just wanted to say thank you for putting your foot down on this. It is incredibly disheartening to keep hearing stuff like that. It discourages people from sharing and learning. It dismisses people's lived experiences and troubles.

Personally I started to have suspicions about a year ago and it wasn't due to these memes. It was due to real struggles I am having. I hit rock bottom and just got fed up with my crap amd was finally done running from my problems. I never self disgnosed but i atumbled upon an rlarticle o. Adhd when i was trying tonfogute out why inwas so much fail and it resonated so i started reading and then found these communities which I did relate too way to much. And now as of about a month ago I have a diagnosis. The memes did help encourage me to seek help but they where not the sole reason.

Anyways, if someone relates and it encourages them to seek help I see that as a win even if it turns out they don't have adhd. And even though many people frown on it "self diagnosis" is a first step for many in seeking an official diagnosis. I really don't understand this mentality of people dismissing ADHD or gatekeeping it. It's not like people just want to have ADHD. People are here because they either have it, a loved one has it or they may have suspicions.

I just felt like I wanted to say something because this stuff has really been bothering me. Thabk you for trying to keep this a safe space for us all. Much respect.

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