Leilys

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[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com -4 points 1 year ago (13 children)

They're serious people, and they told their parents within a week of starting.

I care less about the fact it wasn't told to me, I would've respected it if they said they didn't want to talk about it. I just feel hurt that they resorted to lying.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 year ago

Been hoping for that for a long time, lol.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago

I actually bought one for my collection. Takes a lot of tweaking, which I think is what detracts a lot of people, but it's not bad hardware at all.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago

Currently jailbreak is possible if you have firmware 9.0.0 and below, to my understanding. You can look up videos, but most people recommend text guides as they are easier to update and keep current. For PS4 it matters less since nothing has changed since the current jailbreak released.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 year ago

You don't need to disclose the diagnosis to your employer as long as you're not seeking any accomodations. I've personally withheld my diagnosis from my boss since there's no need for accomodations beyond my medication.

I used to have a very hard time staying awake in meetings that didn't involve me directly, and medication has been a lifesaver. There will be people who insist you never had a problem before, etc, but I'd encourage you to just ignore them and do what's in your best interest. You know yourself best.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Have you ever found that game where it plays well, mechanics are solid and the art is also up your alley. But at the end of each round you play you just see the little battle pass section trying to prey on your sense of FOMO, trying to scrape out just a little more, even though the price tag upfront is already a bit higher than what you'd normally pay for a game in the same vein.

I found a game I probably could've genuinely enjoyed for a long time. I was talking it up to my friends to buy it on release together so we could play co-op. The demo was really great.

For it to come with a Day 1 battle pass (plus online only access when it had singleplayer modes) makes the developer's intent very clear: we want more money, and we'll use every FOMO trick in the book to achieve it. And once you pay, you still have to work for those rewards you paid for.

Cosmetic DLCs are fine. I play a fair bit of DST and I enjoy collecting twitch drops and free skins, and if I wanted to support the Devs more I could buy a pack. That's upfront and transparent. I don't get reminded every time I build a chest that "There's 16 more skins you can unlock for this item". That would be scummy.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago

I majored in communications because I was so burnt down after secondary school that it was more a process of elimination - I couldn't do everything from A to Y, so that only left Z. But I would've liked to go into something to do with computers.

My father's a software developer too, and seeing my neurotypical younger brother following in his footsteps now is a bittersweet experience. He gets a lot more attention from our dad, and I feel like he's the white sheep of the family, where I'm the black sheep for not being able to do well in life

I don't know if I'll ever retrain to pursue that career, but I'm in my mid 20s and there's time if I'd like to. Right now I have a stable career, and I'm working towards life milestones one day at a time.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are you also a recipient of the "You have potential, you're just lazy" award?

Its sad to see that we all bear that weight of all these great expectations we just couldn't seem to meet, despite our best efforts.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

My partner was also the one who suggested I get checked. I hope you'll be able to find the support and help you're seeking soon, because it really makes a difference.

All those flaws you've kicked yourself over for a lifetime suddenly become manageable and doable with medication, in my own experience. It's such a: "Wait, that's it? That's all it takes?" moment.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I forget if Vyvanse is available in my country, or if it's only available in longer effect doses here. I've also heard about Concerta (is that the name?) but so far I've only tried Ritalin and it works pretty alright if I'm not overstimulated when it starts kicking in.

I have gotten overstimulated when I went out shopping once while it was in effect. Not a pleasant experience, but definitely a new one.

That's a pretty interesting fact about Vyvanse though. What's the window of effect for the one you take?

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago

My interests are like that other meme that got shared here recently, lol. I'm a jack of many, many trades, and I can't ever seem to complete projects I start, though I am trying more now.

For people like me, being stuck monetising a single interest strikes this deep sense of unease in me. I've been working a few years now, and I've decided to stick to something I'm not passionate about, but I can do the job to my abilities and put a lid on at the end of the day.

Anything else would probably consume my thoughts and leave me feeling mentally exhausted. It's like task paralysis, but worse.

[–] Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I agree. Society was not built upon accomodating the neurodivergent, and we've had to struggle a lot as a result. I've also thought about it a lot as well, so there's nothing wrong with that.

I spent a lot of time growing up wondering why I wasn't "normal", like everyone else. I grew up unable to socialise well with my peers and unable to keep up academically with the demands of my academic environment. I was always struggling to stay awake in class, or focus on a subject I desperately needed to learn. I had to drop out of the sciences because I was struggling horribly and my teacher treated me quite badly for my lack of ability to keep up.

I wonder now if I could've done better if my parents were aware of ADHD and had gotten me the help I very desperately needed, because my mother is still in denial to this day that I'm anything but normal, only lazy, selfish and inconsiderate. I was called a lot of horrible things because of things I couldn't control. I developed depression, but frequent therapy and counseling as of late has reduced how intense the mood swings are.

So, given a choice, I likely would've wished to be more normal in my own eyes.

When I went into university and met incredibly accepting and loving people, I really thrived. It's just sad that many like us have to struggle undiagnosed for such a long time, only to realise that with medication, managing our shortcomings would have been made so much more achievable.

I still spend a lot of my time unmedicated because I've come to accept and love myself, including the ADHD diagnosis that I got on my own last year. The diagnosis helped me find mechanisms that actually work for me, and I'm better off for that.

I am no less of a person in my own eyes, but the judgement of a society is a lot of weight to bear.

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