The idea that men make more than women for similar jobs with similar experience is a myth that needs to die.
The idea was based on flawed data from the get-go, but it has persisted because it is an easy way to rile up the troops.
this post was submitted on 18 Jul 2023
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Yeah if companies need to pay men more than women for the same job then why hire men at all?
That's a damn good point. But then again, good luck getting Susan in accounting to refill the water dispenser.
Well, Susan there is qualified in accounting, not in refilling dispenser. Companies got to hire someone able to do that, or put "occasionally refilling water dispenser" in the accounting job description.
And yet Larry in accounting can be tasked with refilling the water bottle once in a while, or being asked to clear the jammed copier because, you know, that's guys stuff, or grabbing that stack of paper from the top shelf and it's perfectly fine.
Whoo boy.
I used to work in the financial industry, specifically in a program geared toward women (trying to make financial services more approachable and inclusive). Much of their published "educational" material is about the harsh financial realities of being a woman, and the writers keep repeating this falsehood ... as if the phrase "controlled pay gap" is profanity.
Don't get me wrong, we should still be mindful of bias. We should acknowledge the pressure on women to take career breaks as caretakers (and, on the flip side, the pressure on men to be primary wage earners). And it's perfectly valid to question whether pink collar work is undervalued and underpaid because these are traditionally female occupations.
But the women I worked with (most of them VPs in finance) simply preferred to believe that they were underpaid because of their gender. No matter what dollar figure you offered, no matter the industry/company/job role/etc., they would firmly believe that having a penis = 20% pay bump.
Like ... that's not how averages work ??
harsh financial realities of being a woman
We live in a time when everyone wants to be a victim.
I think anger feels more safe than sadness or fear, and not just for men. If you make an injustice narrative to elements of your life, you get to paint the surrounding moments with anger. It removes some of the sadness and fear from the hours of your day.
Also anger’s a directing-forward emotion. Anger motivates a person toward a thing, whereas fear motivates away. And sadness demotivates.
Anger is literally some people’s fuel for the day, because their desire isn’t strong enough to motivate them forward.
In order to have desire moving one forward, one needs a clear picture of what they want. But our world is so complex and fast-changing, that pictures of desired future states are hard to form.
As the world gets more complex, replacing the goal with an enemy allows one to keep moving forward without having to keep re-evaluating the goal.
With an enemy the goal is simple: warfare makes sense to us.
With something that would create stent desire, the goal is complex: good health and being of a certain role in the community and etc etc.
If people make simple desire goals, it can work. But they’re less profound so less powerful. “I want to have a red truck”. A person can work toward that but soon you have the truck and oh gee that’s nice but it’s not very fulfilling.
Having an enemy is simple, but hard. Which is perfect, because it lets you keep your eye on the same ball for a long time and build up momentum chasing it.
That anyone has their life together. Everyone is just winging it for the most part.
So true. I hope more people realize this so that we can be kinder to each other.
Yeah but there are degrees of having one’s life together.
That it's good, necessary or acceptable to cut bits off your baby's genitals.
that andrew tate is an “alpha male” and its a good way to live/behave.
that chinless fuck is ruining a large disenfranchised group of men
As someone who completely missed this Andrew Tate thing, does anyone have a good summary for me?
man who things being a misogynist is how you get women. incels love him. charges people for his “courses”
Also had a course on how to get girls to become cam girls for you using the “lover boy” method. Currently under house arrest and awaiting trial in Romania for human trafficking.
In recent years he’s been doing YT streams where he tells young men who are afraid about the state of the world that they’re pathetic and they just need to be more like him; and basically hate women because they caused all their problems.
Essentially hems a criminal shitbag that thinks he’s a genius and everyone else is stupid and is convinced it’s true as evidenced by the fact that his scams made him rich.
Sounds like this is a subject I can happily be ignorant of.
So is he one of those Mens Rights Activists? Or within that circle or so?
No, he is not. Hes a human trafficker and a scum bag.
That you can grow up and be anything you want.
Yeah, there are still people telling the lie, and still people believing it
Chris Rock said it best and it has always stuck with me:
"Stop telling kids they can be anything they want to be. You can be anything you're good at, as long as they're hiring."
Surely it's like that line from Rattatuille, "not everybody can become a great chef, but a great chef can come from anywhere"
So in a sense it's true that you can grow up to become anything, but there's an unspoken caveat that the above is only true if you can overcome your own personal economic/societal/mental/physical/geographical obstacles.
That thing is more about collapsing options as time moves on though. When you're a kid you really can be 'anything' ignoring social and economic stuff. The probability curve is pretty open to anything at that point though. Once you're thirty it feels squarely like that is less true and my options are clearer but more limited.
It's scary but also awesome that you have so many open doors as a kid and adults that say this are mostly envying something they've lost and didn't appreciate or see until later
EDIT: The myth that peeing is a precise art that our organs can successfully aim all of the time.
There's all kinds of "spray patterns" that the organ produces. Its the skill of the adult human who has mastered their organ and has figured out the peeing patterns to successfully hit the toilet in most cases, although there are some patterns that contradict other patterns which means there's always a chance you (hopefully temporarily) miss the toilet until your aim readjusts.
A few years back I started sitting to pee, and my god it's so much better. No worries about it spraying everywhere, you don't have to pay any attention, just sit and pee. I still pee in urinals when out in public of course, but at home it's all sit all the time.
Ugh when the center sticks and you have two streams going in vastly different directions….
That society was completely built around men’s prerogatives and therefore anything bad about society should be blamed on men.