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Welcome to our virtual third place, The Café.

Come on in and make a new human connection over a cup of coffee (or Teh Tarik). This is a casual community, do whatever you want, share your oyen pics, your frustrations, and even organize a weekend picnic with the community. The world is your oyster.

Rules are simple, be kind and civil with each other. As with any other café, rude patrons will be kicked out.

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[–] Naomikho@monyet.cc 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Btw, I finally decided to commit to learning Japenese since my friend wants to take N4 JLPT. I'm not sure whether I want to take the exam yet but I shouldn't rot for too long so I decided to study together.

I stopped studying Japanese after I started working and thereafter I relied on informal learning but it wasn't moving things fast enough.

Don't worry the bot is still otw o7 ~~i just have a fear of manually testing my own code~~

[–] cendawanita@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good luck! I'm still learning after decades 😭

[–] Naomikho@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I've been learning for a long time too lol. I knew the very simple stuff since high school, but I never really learnt much until the past few years.

It's actually pretty hard to learn without an accountability partner. Back when another friend of mine was studying for N4, I was studying too(N5), but I stopped halfway.

Informal learning is also a great way if you're not preparing for JLPT. I can somewhat communicate if I'm not writing in formal Japanese, albeit with very limited prose.

I should revisit akiyama ryohei sensei's videos on Japanese grammar.

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[–] truckdrifter2@monyet.cc 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Today's r/place hate for Reddit's CEO is real, especially from r/de

Spez, du Hurensohn!

[–] oyenyaaow@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 year ago (4 children)

whoa!

It;s not really good idea to go join because reddit is trying to bolster its activity to look good unless you're still holding on to reddit and trying to make it work fuck spez

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[–] weecious@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago

Rightfully deserved. We all know this is a PR move to pull people back.

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Woah, okay, so Mali gov is reclaiming the .ml domain which mean lemmy.ml will be gone as well. I wonder if they can just rehost whatever they have into a new domain

[–] zenyet@mitra.076.moe 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

from what I heard, it won't me easy, but it would be one real stress test for federation. hopefully, we don't have to block them out while they're migrating. I wonder if perhaps it would be better for them to just start over with a clean slate.

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It would be hard to restart i believe, they have to rebuild the communities and all that.

[–] ruk_n_rul@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

They shouldn't have to. Their server is intact, only the server address is unreachable forever.

Like your house still stands, but your street name is suddenly gone from all street signs and maps.

The problem is for the entire ActivityPub fediverse that identifies instances by domain names. If a server moved their domain they had to have a way to broadcast the name change to all the other instances. Mastodon had a way to this; Lemmy has none.

It's like you getting a new phone number and you have to ask everyone in your contacts to change your number in their address books.

[–] zenyet@mitra.076.moe 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

>If a server moved their domain they had to have a way to broadcast the name change to all the other instances.

even if lemmy had a way to do this, doing it for all the users at lemmy.ml would create a large load of federated network traffic between instances, and at the level of a single instance it would cause a lot of database changes (I've heard that the sql schema for lemmy isn't very optimized).

also, as activitypub doesn't prioritize synchronization (unlike git and matrix), there could be a lot of desynchronized state, with the name change of users reaching some instance but not others.

it would be interesting if lemmy.ml really went the clean slate way (and I think the original intention of the devs in running that instance was just to test their code, not to have it become a "flagship" instance), it would sure showcase a valuable lesson in the fediverse…that you shouldn't rely too much on big instances (there is no huge facebook/twitter/reddit-like thing here).

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[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago

I mean restart in clean slate, but yeah i feels like they won't take that path.

[–] dukeGR4@monyet.cc 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Going through my old stuff and found my ex’s break up letter to me. Legit couldn’t remember anything about it, I think I was too afraid to read it.

I hate how even in the break up letter she managed to gas light me after admitting that she had anger issues and that she hurt me and my family.

In some ways I have also achieved a bit of closure. I was under the impression she’s got zero remorse when she ghosted me 7 years ago. Younger me just didn’t know about my self-worth and didn’t know how to establish boundaries.

Also found some of the gifts that I gave her (she returned it during one of the “breakups”), including a Fujifilm Instax and some film. Wanted to chuck it but I think I could use some cold hard cash by selling it.

[–] Naomikho@monyet.cc 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

How does one stay sane when things are just impossible to finish? I'm tired of getting gaslighted by management.

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

There there ( ・_・)ノ(._.`)

Do your best, because tomorrow saturday haha

[–] Naomikho@monyet.cc 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My brain ady holiday mood weh, past few days OT dy now don't feel like crunching already.

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Today balik on time and sleep early then. If boss ask just say got dinner, and if he wanna argue, stare at him like this ( ≖_≖)

🙈

[–] Naomikho@monyet.cc 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Tell me the result later 🙈

[–] Naomikho@monyet.cc 2 points 1 year ago

Nah I'll prolly just bolt out XD

[–] rakyat@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago

I’ll love to know too 💆🏻‍♂️

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The millipede is having a gathering 😌

[–] hyattpotter@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

FUCKING GELIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago

Cute what 🙈

[–] weecious@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You can't just say that without giving tax.

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

No meh? I got attach a video wor

[–] weecious@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago

Okay, it's an app issue.

[–] weecious@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Macam ni only. Lemme try my browser

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] weecious@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm using LiftOff, but it's not showing up in Connect either.

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago

Seems like they didn't support mp4 yet :x

[–] zenyet@mitra.076.moe 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

@cendawanita not all is well with firefish.

I really hope we do not see a repeat of that phoenix ➡️ firebird ➡️ firefox saga that mozilla had.

[–] cendawanita@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Aha! Lol i was reading up on it -- there's some legal leeway imo but otoh one of my fedi mutuals (a futual??) mmg long time low-key sideeye the whole rebranding for management history issues (and tbh they're the only reason I even am this up to speed with the various interplays of the various players)!

It'll be interesting to see what happens next. The biggest booster is a Canadian but he's not actually a dev for this. The actual dev is barely 20 yo tak silap (si kainoa tu). Most of the crew aren't corporate or corporate-trained, so lagilah kalau terkena anything I also dk (eta: like related to when FB approached some of them to berdiskusi pre-Threads launch; most of these guys... tak pernah kena tipu, is all I'll say about it). Hopefully the power and privilege of being European is gonna help somehow.

We should totes recommend ikandipecat tho 😆

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[–] imaginelizard@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

FIFA Women’s World Cup is going on right now and I can’t find legal channel to watch it. Another pirates day for me I guess.

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[–] UltimateUsermaim@monyet.cc 1 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Aiyo my mom made an Instagram account

And she just followed me.

What do I do? I don't want her to meddle in stuffs I'm doing. it's young people stuff that doesn't necessarily in line with what they're hoping for in their child.

[–] oppenMyHeimer@monyet.cc 2 points 1 year ago

Time to make another one that's private with less traceability. Even the email you use to make the new one should not be tied to any accounts. Don't link phone number so IG won't use contact list to add you.

After this, pay attention to when you or your friends talk about IG. You don't want friends to mention "that funny story you put up last week" and have your mom hear it only to wonder why she didn't see it.

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