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Aiyo my mom made an Instagram account
And she just followed me.
What do I do? I don't want her to meddle in stuffs I'm doing. it's young people stuff that doesn't necessarily in line with what they're hoping for in their child.
Time to make another one that's private with less traceability. Even the email you use to make the new one should not be tied to any accounts. Don't link phone number so IG won't use contact list to add you.
After this, pay attention to when you or your friends talk about IG. You don't want friends to mention "that funny story you put up last week" and have your mom hear it only to wonder why she didn't see it.
If you're going to do another alt insta, might as well try another fediverse analogue and get a Pixelfed. At least it's not Facebook who's going to add your new alt and its new alternate email to their profile of you, that will just kantoikan you eventually.
ETA: if you don't want to move, stop posting on main and just use stories and only post to your close friends filter. Or soft block ur mum so she unfollows you
I see. Which community to join in pixelfed?
I would've recommended my instance which is metapixl.com but I'm also shopping around as I'm not sure if I want to stay there, but it's decent enough (having issues with the alt-text character limit but otherwise it's fine). The flagship is pixelfed.social which is huge now but they do get first round of stable releases, but regardless there's a list here https://pixelfed.fediverse.observer/list - filter by signups to yes. Most of them are general instances so other than the non-english one I don't think there's a problem to pick. ETA: oh wait! Check their abouts, some of them allow nsfw content (which shouldn't be a problem until u check local feed)
ETA: I would recommend metapixl.com regardless because they offer the cushiest amount (max 20 pix; caption length is max 2k characters; most others will put about 5 pix with max caption of 500 chars)
Additional info on Pixelfed - upcoming features is tiered access to your posts; so a bit like fb flist, so if she ever finds u again, you can have real public posts and posts she'll never see
Move to pixelfed haha.
But yeah gotta have an alt now. One of the reason i quit fb because i have my mom and siblings in my friendlist, and i just doesn't want my personal online life to be seen by my fam lol
Jinx lmao
You're more experience in this and have more detail 🙈
Oh don't worry, it'll be overtaken soon because I'm a technical noob pun hahaha