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[–] pete_the_cat@lemmy.world 133 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Once the Abrahamic Religions (Christianity, Judaism, and Islam) became huge. It's all about "Women are evil sluts who do nothing but sin and tempt the good and pious men", it's pretty evident in modern societies that have large populations of people that follow these religions.

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 20 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

The correct answer has three upvotes, and Victorian era rises to the top. Well, at least you have 4 upvotes now.

[–] qooqie@lemmy.world 8 points 7 months ago

I feel like it has to be much more complicated than this. Sure they influenced the culture but a lot of polytheistic cultures seemed to also have coverings

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 89 points 7 months ago (6 children)

Victorian England is responsible for most of our annoying modesty rules. As to why... I'm not certain, they were just fucking prudes.

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 42 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Women have been covering their breasts for modesty for ~5,000 years, not 150. Used as a means of identifying which women are “respectable” and which women are “publicly available” to men, upper class women in ancient Mesopotamia were made to wear veils that were wrapped loosely over their hair and fell to their waists, but poorer women were not allowed, and faced harsh punishments if they dared to wear them.

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[–] FunkyMonk@kbin.social 30 points 7 months ago (1 children)

When your wealth system is nothing but cruel unfairness you always need somewhere else to point a finger, that somewhere was boobs.

[–] Madrigal@lemmy.world 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Today it’s immigrants and trans people.

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[–] FuglyDuck@lemmy.world 16 points 7 months ago (2 children)

modesty codes have predated Victorian England by a vast margin.

in fact... by some standards, VE was positively hedonistic. there are cultures where a woman seen un-escorted by her husband would be murdered for it. can you imagine what would have happened if the iranian girls protesting a hijab instead decided to flash people? those laws predates victorian england by quite a lot.

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[–] yemmly@lemmy.world 79 points 7 months ago (2 children)

It’s a conspiracy by Big Dairy to keep us udderly focused.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 9 points 7 months ago

My Holstein brings all the boys to the yard...

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[–] xePBMg9@lemmynsfw.com 42 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (26 children)

Since we are all going; here is my take. Breasts were always sexual in nature. For most species they signal fertility and what part of the cycle the individual is in at the moment. At some point human females evolved to have perpetually inflated breasts. There are a few different theories as to why that happened, but it is beside the point for this discussion. So considering they were evolved to attract or dissuade males, I say they certainly have a sexual function. In addition to this, breasts play a big part in sexual pleasure for the wearer.

Now consider people pairing up in monogamous couples. The male suspects that other males might be motivated to pursue his mate by the visage of his mates nice boobies. He asks his mate to cover them up so he feels more safe in his position. Now hundreds of years pass, and what do you know, it is in grained in the cultures. It's not really too bad for the women, so they have lived with it, for the sake of peace. Sometimes it is even convenient to be covered. For example in cold weather. I bet there is a correlation between climate and a cultures willingness to have boobs in the open.

Tribes have not only hidden their populations breasts, they have been known to hide their women all together, so the neighbouring tribes don't steal them. I feel that this is a bit similar. Put a gold bar in a glass display long enough, and someone will try to take it. Everything carries risk. If your society isn't good at maintaining law, then it's a bad idea to display the gold bar. In some places it might not be an issue at all. All women could go around topless as well, but the risk that they are approached by an aspiring male will probably be slightly increased.

So why do it now, in my amazing, functioning, egalitarian and lawful country? It is down to history and people being comfortable with what we have always done.

My humble opinion is that we abolish any law that prevent any boob owner from showing them anywhere. But I'm lazy, so I won't start a revolution over it.

[–] gramie@lemmy.ca 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

But this ignores all the cultures where women's breasts are not considered sexually. I lived in Africa, and it was actually a big adjustment for me, even though the local people's attitudes were changing due to Western media. 25 years of Canadian upbringing made it hard not to look when women or teenage girls took off their shirts. But that was my problem, not theirs.

And not just Africa. In rural Japan japan, before WWII, women were often topless.

[–] xePBMg9@lemmynsfw.com 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I am not arguing that this happens everywhere, in the same way and is then set in stone forever. People in different places and times had different circumstances. Hence, they could have chosen to handled things differently. Cultural norms can also sometimes change over night. Look at the sexual revolution of the 60-70s for example.

I was trying to answer the question where this norm comes from. Not why this norm isn't universal.

It seems obvious to me that a culture that have normalized breasts in everyday life, would also consider them less sexual in nature.

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[–] hysterika@lemmynsfw.com 42 points 7 months ago (4 children)

Okay I'm gonna post something like an actual answer, which I feel like will get downvoted bc y'all are men but whatever.

Women's bodies are sexualized, plain and simple. Breasts perform the biological function of nourishing a baby, but that has seemingly become secondary to their entity as an object of sexual desire, namely by men. So you have 3 factors - breasts are seen as sexual in nature, sex is considered taboo in many western cultures, and men are generally the ones who hold positions of power. Put that all together and you have laws and cultural attitudes that require that breasts be concealed in public.

Men's nipples are completely fine though. Men can walk around shirtless (in many places, perhaps not "most" but 100% more than can be said for a woman) and no one bats an eye, but the female nipple is considered obscene because it is seen as sexual.

All this "they don't" "not in Europe" "yeah aren't you disappointed" "hurr durr udders" fuckouttahere with that dismissive bullshit lmao

[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 32 points 7 months ago

I think OP knows all this and agrees with it as well. I think they were asking historically when the shift happened.

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 18 points 7 months ago

Breasts don't need to be large throughout adult life for the purpose of nursing. Look at the non-human apes and other primates. The hypothesis that large adult human breasts outside of nursing evolved due to sexual selection is completely reasonable.

Sexual selection is not inherently good or bad. It just is. If that theory is correct, then breasts which are (on many women) large before and between nursing stages came about due to sexual attraction. There was selection for women with larger breasts and selection for men attracted to them. It's not the responsibility or fault of either sex, and the genes increasing both the attraction in males and the breast size in females are passed through both sexes. Fathers and mothers who have daughters with larger breasts and sons attracted to them will have more grandkids.

None of this comes with the baggage of how we should set up our society. We can suppress sexual activity in public, demand consent, be free to cover or not cover regardless of how it was we got to where we are today.

[–] makyo@lemmy.world 13 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Isn't the breastfeeding function part of the reason breasts are sexualized? In other words - biologically males seek a female that can provide for her offspring so there'd be an evolutionary advantage for women who can at least appear to be able to do so.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 4 points 7 months ago

I think it's more "Women have them, but men and children usually don't".

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[–] knightly@pawb.social 32 points 7 months ago

It varies by culture, but the short explanation is "Victorian morality".

[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 24 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Where?

There's more than a few countries even in Western Europe where women can go topless in public.

Depending on where you're talking about, there's lots of different answers including "they don't"

[–] ABCDE@lemmy.world 38 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Can but it's still not normal or typical.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

In Spain, nudity is a constitutionally guaranteed human right - that's a stark difference compared to America and voyeuristic spying is considered a crime entirely on the peeper and not on the person having their privacy violated.

[–] ABCDE@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Right, but it's not normal outside of beaches.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 16 points 7 months ago

You're correct, you won't find topless women wandering around city streets - but a woman may feel comfortable hanging up their laundry topless or being topless in their home near windows. In some parts of the US and Canada you can actually be fines for casual nudity if some asshole judge deemed it exhibitionist.

[–] zout@fedia.io 8 points 7 months ago

It's actually becoming less normal in a lot of places since every creep has a smartphone with a camera these days. Women have found their pictures or filmclips back on the internet, which was not the reason for going topless.

Also, it's been allowed in the last 50 - 60 years for most countries, not so much before.

[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 11 points 7 months ago (5 children)

Women can go topless in public in most of Canada and the US too, they just don't most of the time.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

In North America you can expect verbal or physical assault for going topless. There's very much a culture of "She was asking for it".

[–] Maeve@kbin.social 4 points 7 months ago

Common saying about sexuality where I live, "A woman should cover herself. A man's going to be a man!" By man, I mean creep, but that's not how most people, including women, feel, even though it's literally creepy/pervy/and sexual assault.

I walked my dog past a church yesterday, baggy jeans and tee, and a guy who was letting himself in asked how I was and if I was behaving. I said I was fine and always behave. He literally leered so hard at me when he said I was having no fun that I couldn't get home fast enough.

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[–] Blizzard@lemmy.zip 9 points 7 months ago

Even though it's just a text post, I can hear your disappointment.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 8 points 7 months ago

Once all the boomers die, y'all can hang out topless wherever you want. Everybody else is cool with it.

[–] theodewere@kbin.social 7 points 7 months ago

men realized that women can cast spells with those thing, so we forced you to hide them

[–] FunkyMonk@kbin.social 6 points 7 months ago

AS A MAN I KNOW it's when I got chubby and because I don't like air on my nipples.

[–] Sam_Bass@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

Maybe when wars started over them?

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