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Hey nutomic-

I hope you aren't taking the insults too close to heart. Keep in mind more users = more people = more hate. It's linear, don't sweat it. A lot of people who upvote stupid takes don't fully understand it either, and the ones who stick around will eventually understand it.

Keep in mind some of us here, on lemmy.ml, aren't here because we think Lemmy.ml is better than Reddit.com in it's current form. We're here because we support the idea and goal of Lemmy, and we're here to support you directly when it comes to using the live instance and gathering a userbase for feedback. We don't say "Thanks for Lemmy!" every post, but every well-thought-out post is a compliment.

Keep in mind you're an awesome person, because despite differences in beliefs, you're the one acting to make the world a better place. Or let the haters empower you, that's a good route to success.

The creation is now being used to fight the creator. The beginning of many a sci fi film

Don't forget that many appreciate what you're doing here :)

Congratulations on the milestone! 🥳 🎉

Many of us do appreciate how much work and effort you have put into this. I find it very inspiring that you and Dessalines have managed to build a project that you are passionate about and raised the funds to be able to work on it full time. And you have gotten others like me excited about the project too!

I am not sure what insults you are referring to, but I suspect that whoever insulted you probably did so because of how you have dealt with politics in Lemmy. I recommend those people to read the about page to see what Lemmy is about: https://join-lemmy.org/about

I think that you do a very good job as an admin in keeping with these ideals.

You are great! Thank you for your work!

You don't deserve that treatment IMO. You've created a viable alternative to Reddit. You should be proud of what you have accomplished!

Moderation may have been too slow at times, but they don't realize that your priority is Lemmy software, not moderation. Considering that, despite the controversies, I still have a good impression of you. Sometimes the coexistence between communists, anarchists and liberals can give a lot of headaches :')

Thanks for all the work you do on Lemmy. It's amazing to see how far it's come. People often fail to appreciate the effort and dedication that goes into maintaining such projects.

I think Lemmy plays an important role in reclaiming the internet. If we're going to have free and open communication then we must have open source platforms that are built by the people and for the people. We must own our tools.

It's a sign that the project is taking off and getting bigger. Congratulations on getting the ball rolling

I'll try to lend a hand if I find the time.

Edit: guys I'm a programmer. Like, I mean I want to help out with Lemmy development. Please chill the fuck out.

You mean me?

Just wanted to say that I have immense respect for all the work you do and that I really understand the feeling. You and Dessalines wear so many hats in the creation and management of this software and these sites. It’s impressive that you’ve been properly delegating and managing all the information being thrown at you constantly for this long.

I’m also surprised that it’s taken this long. Guess that speaks to the quality of community that exists here.

There is no context but maybe that is a signal user base is growing and disseminating. IMO it is mostly disappoiting when people make personal attacks instead of productively criticizing ideas/content and objectively help improve the project.

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

You are doing great things - push on.

With respect I don't think it's the work you put into the project that people have a problem with but rather the way you engage with people, take criticism rather poorly, and completely dismiss absolutely everyone that has any experience with community building.

The issue is not the work you do but a seeming lack of understanding of how your actions and the way you engage with others seriously affects people's motivation to help grow the project. I am a supporter of the project but you told me to go back to reddit when I was airing something I genuinely cared about.

Most of the problems occurring are not even your disagreement with people but the manner in which you frame your disagreements and engage very harshly with others.

On the topic of the bad blood occurring between this instance and its sister lemmygrad - this is a product of poor communication and a wrecker group that has seized upon this and pulled the thread on both sites with the goal of splitting the two.

The main site considers to label itself a "leftist" site when it clearly is no longer that, it's clearly a dev instance with some vaguely left stuff but has undertaken a neutral ideology out of necessity so as not to alienate certain audiences further. This has occurred but the references to it being "leftist" have never been removed and no effort to get ahead of the obvious upset this would cause in your originally marxist-leninist audience seems to have been made. What do you expect? Think ahead. If you change a site from being marxist-leninist to being something else when the existing people who all joined it originally were marxist-leninists and you do absolutely nothing to bring them on-board with the change of course they're going to be upset.

I don't even think any of these mistakes are unfixable. I was going to try and head off some of these problems I could see coming but then the queen died so my entire priority list go upended. But you need to wrap your head around communities and how to engage with communities if you're going to dev for a project about building communities. That or figure out someone who is shit-hot at communications and have them do all of your communications for you instead.

That's the internet for you. I unfortunately don't do much coding more 3d rendering and things, I dabbled in modding and got some of this treatment myself, projects are done for one's own sake first then others.

People will always find things to dislike, there may be sound reasoning or not, it takes time to filter it well to not be a pushover that crumples to all criticism in a vain attempt to be loved, nor go the full other direction and be a grumpy unchanging god complex sort.

Its good to have more reddit alternatives with a low barrier to entry like Lemmy, I appreciate it. I think there's still some confusion in the userbase at large over the whole federation concept though.