I am a lady and my mom shows her internalized misogyny more and more as I get older, especially in regards to marriage. I hate when I vent to her about my husband and she just says, "welcome to marriage, baby girl" like the fact he won't do dishes is a sex-based issue and not an entitlement issue. I always remind her that this is not the 1970s when she got married, it is the year of our lord 2023 and she deserved better back then and I deserve better now.
this post was submitted on 17 Jul 2023
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Nothing drives me crazier than people who are totally unaware of their biases, or at least the fact that they are biased. We are all, but there’s a difference between people who can admit and work on that, and people that knee jerk regurgitate societal bullshit.
You are correct. You deserve better. Don’t give up on your mom though. Challenge her, it’s okay if it gets heated, as long as you always give her another chance, and she to you (aka love each other). Trust yourself.
If women were paid equal to men and both were paid what they were worth rather than minimum wage or below then maybe people could work less and play more. Children could see their parents after school and before school, they could have dinner as a family. If even single parents could afford to raise a child without being broke and forced to work too many jobs for not enough money then children could grow up not being adultified to take care of their siblings.