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y'all
Y'all doesn't get enough love. It is gender neutral and extremely versatile.
A lot of people use “folks” for plural.
I feel like “guys” is fairly un-gendered but people disagree with me. Personally, I haven’t used the word “guys” to refer to anything male in what seems like forever.
“Bud” and “fella” are good singulars.
I used to have a maths teacher who called almost every number "guy".
"And this guy goes to zero, while this guy goes to infinity!"
A wise man once said, "I'm a dude, he's a dudes, she's a dude. We're all dudes. Hey!"
Strange though, that when you ask most men how many dudes they've slept with suddenly, she's not a dude...
Try the following for groups:
Hey folks, how's it going?
Listen up assholes!
Greetings, gumshoes
"Foolish mortals" is my go-to gender neutral form of address
What's up, cunts
Works best if they're your friends and also you're in Australia
I’m AFAB enby, saying “you guys” and calling me “dude” is fine. Those to me aren’t gendered anymore. The people who get offended at general terms like these for groups of people need to touch grass.
But if you’re dead set on it, embrace y’all lol. Just don’t say it with a southern drawl and you’ll be fine. It’s a fantastic gender neutral term. You can also just train yourself not to add in the “you guys” to the “what’s up” phrase, and maybe just say “what’s up with you?” “What’s up with you all?” Etc.
"Offended" is a bit of a strong word.
Many trans folks are, understandably, bummed out when gendered terms that refer to their AGAB are used to refer to them.
I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to avoid causing that brief moment of dysphoria. That just feels like a thoughtful and kind thing to do.
The simplest approach is to accept language is inherently gendered, and at a certain point it is exhausting to either take offense to everything or walk on eggshells.
I’m southern, so I use y’all almost exclusively lol
Mortals
Meatbags?
Everypony.
An oft overlooked option that leaves no one indifferent.
Cursed
But very truly
leaves no one indifferent.
All the alternatives make me cringe.
If someone is insulted that you use the term "guys" for a group, they're not worth being friends with. That's a lot of exhausting mental energy to deal with. Ignore 'em and move on.
I find "y'all" works pretty well, so does "folks" or even better "Fellow Workers."
'round here "guys" has become gender neutral. But "folks" is my go-to.
Fellow kids
"Citizens". It has the added benefit of implying that you're an authority figure and they're in trouble.
I use "folks" a lot. "Howdy folks." I am also a Tarheel so I can get away with y'all. And howdy.
"My fellow great ape"
Folks or Everyone tend to be my go to.
Guys is always fine as it refers to followers of Guy Faulks and pretty much anyone has probably considered blowing up parliament at some point.
Cheese bags.
In the words of Kel Mitchell:
I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, 'cause we're all dudes.