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I personally found The Ethical Slut to be one of the best and most influential books I've read, especially for the way it de-stigmatizes sex. What are your favorite polyamory books?

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[–] HolaMojito@feddit.de 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Polysecure and opening up would be my recommendations. Ethical slut did not connect with me at all

[–] toothpaste_sandwich@feddit.nl 1 points 6 months ago

Working through Polysecure now and it's all kinds of revelatory. There's a recent sequel: Polywise. Heard that's a good read, too.

[–] guy_threepwood@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I know that this question is quite old now, but I recent read the new Multiamory book and felt that has some excellent guidance and ideas in it. I’ve listened to the podcast for some time so that makes sense :)

The other one which is particularly good for me as an anxious person is The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy

[–] punkisundead 2 points 1 year ago

I read The Ethical Slut and liked it as an introduction, but really did not connect in any meaningful way. I am happy that introduced me to the idea of check-ins tho.

I am not a huge book reader (I prefer zines, if you have any recommendations pls send them to me <3), but the other polyam/non-monogamy book i read was Polysecure and that felt way more relevant to me. I learned a bunch about attachment stuff and got helpful questions/exercises to reflect and learn.

Also a huge fan of The Ethical Slut!

I liked it a lot better than Polysecure, which was more psychology than polyamory. Also not as huge of a fan of Sex at Dawn, which was more like anthropology than actionable poly material, though it's good for what it is.

[–] kerneltux@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I really enjoyed Opening Up. It has interviews with people that have been (or are) in ethical non-monogamous relationships, and shared their stories. So it's down-to-earth & practical info that people learned by "being in the trenches," so-to-speak, and not some academic theorizing or some-such.

[–] nonexcludable@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I have read and loved The Ethical Slut, but in general I'm not a huge reader! I enjoy the Multiamory podcast, even though it gets a bit repetitive!