Hey y'all. Curious if anyone here has some tips on meeting trans / queer friends. I've recently moved back to Seattle where I grew up. Ive found though that I am exclusively surrounded by a ton of people who only ever knew me as a guy. From family to highschool friends.

They're all accepting and I still have a lot of love for them, but I would really like to meet some people I can connect with on other kinds of things. I'm surrounded too much by cis heteronormativity haha

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[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 17 points 9 months ago (2 children)

heteronormativity

Is... Is it contagious?

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 9 months ago

Yes. People spread it from one to another. But you can inoculate yourself by regular exposure to queer

[–] chloyster@beehaw.org 9 points 9 months ago

Sure hope not 😨

[–] Gaywallet@beehaw.org 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Connect with local queer groups. If there's pride events, they'll be tabling at them. Say hi, get info, go to their events. Check Facebook for queer groups in the area, check Meetup for queer meets. Find the local gay bar, or queer night. Find a local bookshop that looks queer run or extra friendly and ask them about events or local groups. There's always a queer party scene and you can usually find them putting on shows at local queer spots or on Instagram. Ask on Reddit on city and state subs about where to meet queer friends or what queer groups are around. Get on dating apps and start dating (or use bumble friend) - many of these connections aren't going to go anywhere romantically but have an easier time going platonic.

[–] frogman@beehaw.org 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Months ago you mentioned a Bumble-like app designed specifically for queer people, do you remember it? 👀 A person could post about events like a queer cinema night out.

[–] Gaywallet@beehaw.org 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Lex!

It's not really like bumble, it's a weird cross between dating apps and like, craigslist. There's a lot of shitposting, but it would be a great place to check too.

[–] MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

If you figure it out, make sure to share notes. I'm in bumfuck nowhere Washington and it feels like my only bet for meeting other LGBT folk would be to clone myself.

[–] Deceptichum@kbin.social 12 points 9 months ago (2 children)

You’d think there would be a lot of gays in bumfuck at least.

[–] MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Oh, you.

[–] Deceptichum@kbin.social 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Do you come with the car?

[–] MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Sadly I'm not sure I can hit that high pitched of a giggle just yet.

[–] drwho@beehaw.org 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

[rimshot]

[–] FoxyFerengi@lemm.ee 6 points 9 months ago

All my irl queer friends are in the theater scene. I met them through college classes (the theater is attached to the uni), but a community theater might be a good place to start?

[–] RadioRat@beehaw.org 2 points 9 months ago

Facebook groups, unfortunately 😬
independent booksellers
meetup.com
Unitarian church
drag shows and gay bars
pride
dating apps
hormone clinics sometimes have info for support groups

[–] UngodlyAudrey@beehaw.org 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I live in the area; maybe we could meet up some day?

[–] chloyster@beehaw.org 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

That could be fun yeah!

[–] Gaywallet@beehaw.org 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Envious! I greatly appreciate you both around here

[–] chloyster@beehaw.org 3 points 9 months ago

😊 I appreciate you as well. Thanks for helping run a great space!!