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[–] seedling@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I guess if this is the aromantic thread, I'm curious: how long did it take people to figure out they're aromantic? I realized I was queer at like 12 but it took till my 30s to realize I was aromantic, maybe cause I didn't know that was a thing until then and I thought I was just, like, failing to live up to my responsibility to find myself a relationship

[–] ngoomie@pawb.social 5 points 1 year ago

Took me until I was, I believe, 16 despite discovering that both aromanticism and asexuality were a thing a long, long time prior, because it was only then that I realized you can be aromantic without being asexual. When I was younger I thought I was ace + bi or something for a bit, but that felt really, really off.

30s, when I came across a proper explanation of the split attraction model. I'm also some form of asexual.

[–] Borimino@feddit.dk 3 points 1 year ago

I was never really interested in that kind of stuff (boy/girlfriends, sex), but I didn't have a word for it, it knew of other people who felt similarly until I was at a Pride Parade and was given a flier. Thinking "this is probably an add, but I'll read it anyway" I for the first time read about aces, and later read about aros aswell. So I learned about it in my early 20's.

[–] ngoomie@pawb.social 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Shhalahr@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Oh, yeah! Lots of folks seem to think Aro automatically means AroAce. Glad to see AroAllo rep!

[–] confusedwiseman@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hello all, and I think I learned a new word today. If someone is more informed, I’d love to learn.

Aromantic: Lack of romantic attraction to others; low or absent desire for romantic activity.

[–] Shhalahr@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Here's a starting point: https://www.aromanticism.org/

Got any specific questions?

[–] confusedwiseman@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks, I'll check this out. All new to me, What's life without perspectives different from our own?

[–] Gormadt@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Here's also a great video about AroAce from a YouTuber named Jaiden Animations.

https://youtu.be/qF1DTK4U1AM

When my roommate and I watched it it was very eye opening for what being Aromatic and being Asexual is.

[–] mnglw@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

hello! aromantic asexual agender here. I'm truly triple A 😎

[–] dsmaster7173@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago
[–] seedling@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago
[–] outlawfrom1899@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Greetings! I'm not just an aromantic, I'm also an ace (asexual) and non-binary (agender).

Where I live, self-identities like these are seen as being weird and unusual. For example, usin as a pronoun will make people think that you can't speak English.

Growing up, I had never thought sexuality and gender-identity to be in the form of a spectrum. Funnily enough, It was only because of this little game, called Undertale, did I get to know about these gender and sexual identities.

So yeah, thank you Undertale for helping me discover my true identity. Truly one of the best things in my life.

[–] ccx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

Quoiromantic hello to you back. :-)

[–] Kyle@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

I had trouble following this thread for a bit because I thought it said "aromatic" and expected people to start talking about their favorite colognes, perfumes and smells like bakeries and other scented things.

[–] lemonadebunny@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

Hi! I'm aromantic, thank you for the greeting 💛

[–] Shhalahr@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago
[–] retronautickz@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Hi! Aplaro here

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