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How do you handle being the one out of your siblings who is caring for your parent? I am trying to accept that because I live here (since my mom's injury) I do pretty much everything and will from now on. Why don't siblings want to be around and help? I can't change anyone. Trying to practice radical acceptance.

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[โ€“] OhScee@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

the situation can be tricky depending on your relationship. it could also be as simple as laziness, or fear. Maybe they are afraid to face the reality that their mother is aging, and coming over to help take care of her makes that unavoidable.

Good point. We lost my oldest brother in 2020. The other one compartmentalizes. He lives a busy life and seems to make other things priority, but there could be a deeper reason. I will think on that.

[โ€“] metawish@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

As someone who lives with their parents in adulthood and is planning on moving soon but racked with guilt about leaving, most of the people I talked to about this seem to say that you need to live your own life. So basically, think only of your own wants and needs and not others. Even tho I'll be farther than my other sibling, I'll probably still be the one my parents lean on for support. For me, I always saw myself as taking care of my parents out of my love for them. So I'm not bothered by my siblings lack of care because I'm motivated through my own desire to help and care. Idk if that helps?

It does. I won't be the one with regret. I'm doing what I feel is right for my mom.