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[–] Th4tGuyII@kbin.social 327 points 1 year ago (162 children)

As it turns out, the majority of folks are just people trying to get by, and if you're nice enough to them, they'll be nice enough to you.

The problem with most terminally online people is that their social lives ended when they left school, which is when the population of arseholes is at its highest. Everybody is trying to impress everybody else, even at the cost of others.

But a lot of those same people tend to chill off as they mature into adults and become less self-centred. There are still absolutely arsehole adults, but nowhere near as many as the terminally online expect there to be.

[–] sounddrill@lemmy.antemeridiem.xyz 40 points 1 year ago (30 children)

I've observed this after I got into a college!

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[–] NateNate60@lemmy.ml 148 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When real life does not match up with the description given by social rejects on a site notorious for infidelity

[–] lars@lemmy.world 34 points 1 year ago (4 children)

notorious for infidelity

What does this part mean?

[–] Armand1@lemmy.world 63 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think they mean "inaccuracy to reality" rather than "cheating on their partners"

[–] tuff_wizard@aussie.zone 22 points 1 year ago

Yeah i was going to say, you’ve gotta have a girlfriend to cheat on a girlfriend.

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[–] Moc@lemmy.world 137 points 1 year ago (2 children)

⛺️🔥 Rest here traveller. Reading the comments in this thread can get tiring.

[–] drislands@lemmy.world 34 points 1 year ago (5 children)

It's mostly fine. There's one guy who's got a real rough view of the world and taking it out on anyone that engages with him, but if you block him it's a lot better.

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[–] orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts 119 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Using high school as a marker for what to expect for the rest of life is such a terrible idea. Just throw that in the rubbish and go experience people for yourself. Wade through the assholes and you’ll find tons of nice folks just trying to live.

[–] saruwatarikooji@lemmy.world 37 points 1 year ago (4 children)

While that is true... There is still a ton of high school bullshit going on, especially in workplaces.

All the same drama and gossip... I'm so glad I don't work in an office anymore.

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[–] drislands@lemmy.world 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's true. I think the amount of attention highschool gets, from people saying it was the best years of their lives, to adults coming down hard on you to do the best thing for your future, to your peers seemingly having an amazing time while you're not, winds up making teens feel like it is indicative of how life will be in general.

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[–] Comment105@lemm.ee 96 points 1 year ago (9 children)

When you're terminally online, it helps to be at least reminded that online culture isn't normal, especially not 4chan. But Reddit, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are all full of their own weirdness.

Better than recognizing that would be to reintegrate into society fully and leave the internet mostly behind to sulk and moan.

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 96 points 1 year ago

That’s so sad. Like I get it, I’ve been the internet shut in and it’s just brutal on your mental health. The blunt reality is that most people are fine and plenty are great. Talk to strangers, you might make friends

[–] xxxSexMan69xxx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 86 points 1 year ago (2 children)

They also don't complain about wokeness and people complaining about wokeness

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I actually hear people complain about wokeness often irl. At the most random places and times.

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Eh, I'm a school bus driver and that shit is like the main topic of discussion in the break room. It's usually that, dog-whistle euphemisms for racism, or outright use of the n-word.

[–] poeticstuff@lemm.ee 66 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Most people like being around other people who are chill and respectful. There's no magic trickery about it. Get outside and talk to people.

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[–] _number8_@lemmy.world 60 points 1 year ago (2 children)

god that's really depressing

[–] moonsnotreal@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 1 year ago (3 children)

And this is one of the few posts on 4chan that doesn't contain the n-word or f slur!

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[–] nIi7WJVZwktT4Ze@fost.hu 56 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The consequences of being terminally online.

[–] assassinatedbyCIA@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago

Hopefully this guy is in remission

[–] darthsid@lemmy.world 39 points 1 year ago

This is what rehabilitation feels like

[–] Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 39 points 1 year ago

I tried community college first online and then in person at 19/20. Felt so anxious about everything. Mom drove me there and back and was really mean about having to do it. Classes of normies were uber-social, like everybody introduce yourselves and talk aboit the topic. Felt fuck me eyes coming from everyone, which I was probanly returning, but it was a LOT of attention for my loner self. I stopped going and Mom resented me because it cost thousands for like nothing but she didnt want to do it my way either so it was sort of her fault as well. Anyway it was probanly trans dysphoria too. Of course my every waking moment I was like I wonder if they can tell Im feminine please tell me this will help me be more openly queer. Lol.

[–] onichama@feddit.de 37 points 1 year ago

congrats anon 💜

[–] StinkyDave@lemmy.world 33 points 1 year ago

It's obviously some kind of trap. Run!

[–] OurTragicUniverse@kbin.social 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Wtf does the tilt of your eyes (canthal tilt) have to do with anything? Do incels not like eyes now or something?

[–] squiblet@kbin.social 64 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Incels think of lots of complicated theories about society and appearances to explain why they think women are not attracted to them

[–] pthaloblue@sh.itjust.works 39 points 1 year ago (3 children)

That's interesting, they're pretty much the same techniques used by racists from the 17-1900s to determine racial superiority. It's like it never went away, just crawled into 4chan

[–] squiblet@kbin.social 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Racist phrenology is alive and well among the racists who hang out on 4chan, and definitely, they also apply it to incel theory, mixed with misogyny and a feeling that genetics and society dealt them an unfair and poor hand which can’t be rectified.

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[–] EatMyPixelDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's 4chan, of course it's full of lies...

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[–] bane_killgrind@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 year ago

When nobody is a normie... everyone is.

[–] mmagod@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

there are still bubbles out there..

a lot of people are shitty self centered POS's.. i think they just happened to be in the right place at the right time

[–] Bearlydave@lemmy.world 36 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The self centered POS's are sitting in their mom's basement on 4chan.

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