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I don't really plan to use it on legal documents yet (it is a nightmare to legally change my legal name in my country), but it might sound better online and to introduce myself. I would appreciate suggestions uwu.

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[–] bbpolterGAYst@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 year ago

Valentine Sday

[–] Demographics@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Casiano if are looking for something that won't draw attention. Heartsmith if you want something cute and eye-catching.

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

someone I know has a last name of "Breedlove" 👀

[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sounds like an incel self help author:

"Stop Simping! The absolute dating guide for sigma males" - By Chad Breedlove.

i thought that said Breadlove and was very confused 😔

[–] Vlaxtocia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 year ago

Valentine Roberta Le'Bussy

[–] amethyst@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You might want to start by looking at common last names for a region you identify with.

e.g. here's a list of common surnames in England/Wales (Picked because I'm British myself)

If I had to pick from that particular list, I might go with:

  • Valentine Yates
  • Valentine May
  • Valentine Frost

(also several borderline puns such as Valentine Hart, Valentine Rose, Valentine Day)

e: Oh also, I honestly didn't think my full name flowed very well initially. But I got used to it over time!

[–] uniqueid198x@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Perpetua was a female saint who many consider to have been gay. She is cited as a patros saint of lesbians. She also had a dream about turning in to a man.

As a saint, its a thematic pair with valetine, but not used as a first name for centuries.

The name also signals intent to endure and live even in the face of adversity.

[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It is absolutely amazing, I didn't know about her. I wasn't very sure about Perpetua, like, Valentine Perpetua. But then I started reading and see that her first name was Vibia. Vibia Valentine sounds cool, it might work. I'll see if it sticks.

BTW I'm not lesbian, I'm bisexual in a relationship with a cis man. Hopefully I'm not appropriating anything from lesbians, lol.

[–] uniqueid198x@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago

Vibia Valetine sounds cool as fuck. Thats awesome! And like, I don't think people will mind, some people also call her the patron saint of trans people.

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As a lesbian, you're good. 🙂

[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Thank you. Ive been going by Vibia Valentine recently.

[–] DudePluto@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Pronounced væləntain with an "eye" sound or væləntin with an "ee" sound? Or some other variation?

[–] Lux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not sure if others pronounce it differently, but I would say val (as in value) en (enter) tine (t eye n)

[–] DudePluto@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

That's how I pronounce it too! Jw because idk what country OP is from, nor their first language. So they might pronounce it differently, and I'd pair different surnames depending on pronunciation

[–] gandalf_der_12te@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
[–] burgersc12@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago
[–] MxRemy@lemmy.one 2 points 1 year ago
[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you have initials that you would like to have?

[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not really, anything goes, but I really like the letter V

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

So Valentine (last name starting with 'V')?