Maybe submit a GDPR request to get all of your photos from FB in a nice clean package so you can pack them up into cold storage and nuke the albums on the platform entirely.
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I don't know how far along your journey you are, but I can tell you for me at least, at some point, the old photos stopped having any sort of emotional impact on me.
Download the photos and save them somewhere, and then delete them from facebook. That way, they aren't there for the world to see, but if you ever need or simply want to go and look back the memories, you'll still have the option.
Deleting them isn't a great move, because even if you never truly feel comfortable looking at them, I guarantee you that as time goes by, they'll impact you less, and at some point, the positive memories they contain will outweigh whatever is left of the discomfort.
Can definitely say the same for me. I have some old pictures from when I was a teenager I used to dislike. But I have them on display in my home now. It's honestly nice to see them and see how far I've come and who I once was. Seeing that person has become easier.
I asked a similar question here: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/24487623 and got many great answers. I suggest you download all old photos and archive them somewhere until you are ready to face them.
I agree, download and archive them.
Yeah I concur with the other commenter. Could also download them and delete the ones off Facebook. So you have a copy but it's not attached to your profile.
Keep the photos personally, delete them publicly. That's my advice, in line with every other comment so far.
If you're not sure, consider all possible options and determine whichever is least worst option.
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I made a folder to drag the old pictures into, but I was still having trouble on the emotional side when I tried actually doing it. I talked to my partner about the struggle, and she offered to save then delete them for me, and then to go in and untag anything with my face. I gratefully accepted, and she did it. Problem solved (with help and extra steps)
Thank you all, wonderful humans!
Hang them next to the pictures of your deceased lovesd ones lmao
You could cover yourself in those pictures, such as just scribbling black over you. While not great, a black blob might be easier to connect with than old photos of you.
I personally made a new FB account, haven't touched the old one, but I was thinking of setting it up as "this person has died" account, with my account as the caretaker