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Not OP but my parents were "helicopter parents" and I was kind of brainwashed into thinking that school was the only purpose in life. You MUST get a degree, and that's it. I had no education except "do your homework." No real friends, no purpose in life, no thinking for myself. I was filthy, brushed my teeth once a day, took a shower once a week or once a month. No one ever noticed. It was worse than being a catholic extremist.
When I got a master's degree, I didn't knew what money was, health, having an opinion, paying taxes, taking a real shower, buying food, cooking food. I knew nothing and it took me years to even understand that it was a thing that you had to do every day. It was way before the internet but I'm happy it exists for young people. Physical abuse is difficult to detect, but psychological abuse is even more sneaky.
That is not the definition of helicopter parents; quite the opposite. Helicopter parents would have been overly attentive of you and ensuring you were doing all the things you should be doing, or doing them on your behalf, even if you fought against them.
You had neglectful parents. Frankly, I wouldn't refer to these people as "parents" at all if they didn't teach you how to bathe yourself.
I'm sorry this was your life and hope you've considered therapy.