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Just treat them like a human being instead of like a streetlamp or something. Speak to them. Ask them how they're doing (I know the answer is probably "shit" but still, let them talk about it if they want to). I know it's tempting to just ignore them because saying you don't want to or can't give them money is awkward, but imagine being in that situation, how humiliating it must be to sit on the floor, literally beneath everyone, grovelling to strangers. Show them the same humanity you'd expect to be shown if it were you on the floor. Even "sorry, but no" is better than being ignored. Maybe chat to them about their day or something if you can't or don't want to give money. Help look up the location of a local soup kitchen or shelter or something if they don't have a phone. If they're recently homeless you may be able to give them legal advice in terms of getting a roof back over their heads (I say "recently" bc in some places an eviction notice can be used to access social housing, if the eviction was ages ago they might not have the relevant documentation anymore).
And also frankly, when I do give money to homeless people, I don't care if they spend it on drugs. If I'm giving someone money I'm giving them money. It's their money now. I wouldn't tell you how to spend your money, and I wouldn't tell a homeless person how to spend their money. If they ask for help to overcome their addiction I'd do my best to signpost them, but I'm not going to force them if they don't want it. If what they want is drugs then they're going to get that one way or another, if not with money people gave them out of charity then through stealing or something else.
I mean, it sounds nice on paper, but at least in the West a non-trivial percentage are so mentally ill average Joe can't really be their friend effectively. Using judgement is recommended.
How many homeless people have you spoken to? Of course everybody is different so treating someone like a person may look different depending on their circumstances, but the principle still applies, including towards homeless people with severe mental illnesses.
And also that's just not my experience tbh. Both from speaking to homeless people on the streets, and also when I was in prison I met a lot of the typical types of people who would end up street homeless, including people who were street homeless prior to being incarcerated and people who were street homeless and mentally ill, and they're still people. I managed to form good friendships with a lot of them. I don't know, possibly you have genuinely tried to interact with homeless people and you've hit a brick wall, but in my own experience that's just an assumption or first impression people have and not the reality if you just try talking to them for a few mins.
Hmm, where I live it's more frequently people living in decrepit buildings than properly homeless. The one guy that actually wanders around just doesn't talk. I heard him say "yup" once, in a situation where he was pretty much forced to. I've had less than positive experiences with rough-looking people. Other times it's been fine.
This is me regurgitating what I've heard from actual professionals.