The way I understood your point is that their foundational atrocity, the Nakba, makes majority-Jewish democracy impossible. I.e., it could have never at any point in its history have been a democratic country. Did I understand your point wrong?

To that point I responded that other ethnostate democracies exist in the region that also have foundational atrocities in their history but are now pretty democratic and pretty peaceful, ...all things considered. But they had to learn the lesson the hard way. That's my point, that Israelis need to at some point also face the harsh reality of the impossibility of their nationalist delusions. Just like the Greeks, the Turks, the Bulgarians etc.

I don't see it. Same shit happened all over the Balkans, Anatolia and the Caucasus. Hell it's not even the most recent example. Cyprus has been subjected to colonization by Anatolian Turks since the 1974 war, and that's after the Yom Kippur War.