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I often feel like the odd one out in this conversation because I feel like I'm the only person with no strong feelings one way or the other. Like I could be totally okay with never having kids, but also fine with having kids.
I know several people who feel this way!!
I have a kid and I feel this way.
To be clear, I absolutely love my son and I'm glad I have him. But I also still feel like if I had decided not to have kids, I'd have been fine with it.
It's a different framing now though, of "Do you want a kid", in the hypothetical, vs. "Would you be ok if you didn't have [Insert your kid's name here]." I'd be devastated if my son were not in my life. But I think I'd have been fine if I chose not to have a kid.