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Having a decent job, being charming enough, being the rock they can rely on, being romantic when they want, owning their own place. Being extroverted enough.
I'm nothing of that.
I can assure you that not all women want all those things.
Sure, some do, absolutely. But others don't, or they value them in different amounts.
And again, knowing how to support someone else emotionally - being their rock - is not something you are born with. It is learnt, and everyone can learn it, if they want to. But it will take a long time.