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I have friends who are Afghan who have had arranged marriages so this led me to be curious to ask, why does this practice still persist into the 21st century?

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[–] fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Obviously because parents behave differently to dating apps.

[–] meekah@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago (2 children)

But then it's still just arranged dating at best. Maybe the parents look for someone who is interested in entering a marriage in the first place, but that doesn't make it an arranged marriage IMO.

[–] Devi@kbin.social 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It's not dating exactly, but there are dates involved. The parents pick someone that you're intended to marry, they bring them round and go "here, we think you should marry this person". You get chatting with them, go out for some dates, in the modern age you're probably texting each other etc, but it's not like western dating where you're just seeing how it goes, you're deciding if you want to marry.

After a short while you would say 'yup, this seems good'.

[–] meekah@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I mean I'm aware that this isn't like western dating but it's still not an arranged marriage. Saying that this is an arranged marriage is like having your parents pick out a hairdresser and calling it a haircut.

[–] Devi@kbin.social 3 points 6 months ago

I think you're confused. That is arranged marriage.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de -1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

that doesn’t make it an arranged marriage IMO

Amazing.

[–] meekah@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Yes, language is subjective, cool that you seem to be learning that today. So no argument as to why it would actually be an arranged marriage, despite the described scenario not necessarily ending in a marriage?

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de -2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Sorry mate. You don't seem very bright. If you look back through this comment thread you're the only one talking about dating and whatever. I said it's subjective several comments ago.

[–] meekah@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yes you did, and when you said that, you implied that "arranged marriage" could also mean getting help with dating. You never mentioned dating explicitly, but how else do you think your original comment should be interpreted?

You're getting personal now, which is a telltale sign for someone who has no arguments for the point they are trying to make.

You're dramatically overestimating how much I care what people on Lemmy care about arranged marriage.