Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Been getting relentlessly sirred and brothered anytime I go outside which is destroying me. Won't be able to do anything about FFS until I can get my braces off which I don't currently have a timeline on.
Had my first experience with "trans broken arm syndrome" and the doctor blaming a health issue I am having on HRT. I wouldn't take that for an answer, and I eventually got them to take me seriously but it still sucked having to deal with that.
The ghosts of trauma have been haunting me this week as well, bringing everything else down with it. Wishing I could be less of a downer lol
Congrats on your promotion though :)
Ugh, I hate when people feel the need to gender you every other word and repeatedly get it wrong. I'm sorry but like it's not that hard to tell if someone is a woman or not, and even if you're unsure you can just as easily avoid gendered terminology. So frustrating ๐ I go out fully done up, push up bra and makeup on, wearing a cute dress and using my voice and sometimes still get misgendered seemingly out of spite.
Sorry you had that experience with the doctor. They can be so honed in on specifically us being trans. I've only ever had it once, but I know how invalidating and frustrating it is. Medical transphobia is so serious. I hope that's your one and only experience with this.
I'm sorry you had a bad week with trauma :( are you seeing anyone professionally that you talk to about it? It's so important to take our trauma seriously. It shouldn't be debilitating, and we often just accept it as how life is for us. I hope you're doing better today! โค๏ธ
And thank you!! ๐ super new role for me, and the first time I've ever gotten a promotion, haha, so it's all very new and exciting.
Thank you for the support @LadyAutumn โฅ๏ธ โฅ๏ธ โฅ๏ธ You always know what to say :) I dress pretty androgynously, which I know isn't helping, but my fear keeps me from going out full fem in my current location. I'm really really trying to get over it so I can stop compromising on my appearance.
I am in pretty intensive therapy currently, which I'm sure is why stuff is rising to the surface. I think I am doing better today :) It's Friday and Fridays are always good lol
I think once the promotion dam breaks you'll be getting one promotion after another! It sounds like your hard work has really paid off and I hope the new role is super rewarding!!