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Do you think/feel that you are living well? Happily? Embodying your values and dreams? If so, how did this happen? (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago by tributarium@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] BestBouclettes@jlai.lu 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My values and dreams have changed a lot since I was a kid. I like the ones I have now, they're more humane and compassionate.
I think I have an ok life, nothing amazing but I have a stable job, good marketable skills, a loving girlfriend and two cats. I'm not exactly where I want to be but I'm still working on it.
I had a lot of self realisations in the past few years and it made me understand who I was and why I am the way I am. So that's also great I think.

[–] maynarkh@feddit.nl 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

If it's okay to ask, what changed to your dreams from then?

[–] BestBouclettes@jlai.lu 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My first dream was to leave the region I grew up in, which I did. The second was to leave my native country which I did too, but then I had to come back. So it felt a bit like a setback. That's still one of my goals.
As for dreams that never happened (or didn't happen yet) one was to live in Singapore for a while and then New Zealand.

[–] maynarkh@feddit.nl 3 points 7 months ago

My first dream was to leave the region I grew up in, which I did. The second was to leave my native country

I get that, I had that exact order of things I wanted to accomplish myself. It was rough, but I feel I've made it happen.

but then I had to come back. So it felt a bit like a setback. That’s still one of my goals.

But you went out, that's an accomplishment. And if you could do it once, you can do it again. If it is harder for some reason now, you've had practice, you'll do it. I believe in you.