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When the Number of Bedrooms in a Home Keeps Parents From Getting Their Kids Back
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this post was submitted on 01 Apr 2024
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My parents grew up in homes with 3 bedrooms and 5-6 kids. They made it work and it wasn’t considered a problem back then.
My mother and her family grew up in New York City apartments, which were usually one bedroom. She and her brother slept in the living room.
Bunk beds have existed for a long time, not that big a deal.
Nice and what about the kids that did develop issues because of that? Do you not count them because you personally were totally fine with it?
Edit: I'll take the downvotes, because you guys know nothing about mental illness, a healthy child life and psychology. This includes a child has to have privacy, with a lockable door and it's own bed. It involves being able to escape from parents and at best from siblings and also develop their own sexuality.
To not have this doesn't mean guaranteed issues, but it's more likely to develop such. Ask a child psychologist.
Edit2: I'll not comment to the guy below since I'd need to explain so many things, I'd spend an hour typing. Go and read something about child psychology and how children without their own room are forced to endure their narcissistic parents. Get back to the caves if you think a modern society should not provide at minimum a room to their kids. I didn't say siblings can't share theirs when young, but as they get older you definitely want to give them more space and that means their own room. I said "at best", as often families sadly don't have that option. I'll not let someone put things in my mouth, that I didn't say. But it's the second comment here, where people prefer creating a delusional goalpost than reading what I wrote. Pathetic.
Edit3: oh it's the same delusional person who also commented on my other comment. And twice used manipulative tricks to change the narrative. Guess I got to block that guy.
Lockable doors and beds didn't even exist for the vast majority of humanity's existence and still don't in many places. Beds aren't even popular sometimes today. Many Japanese children and their parents sleep on mats on the floor. They also may have interior walls, including the ones of their room, made of rice paper. Are all of those children mentally ill?
To suggest that lacking such things would cause mental illness would be to suggest that only a small segment of humanity has ever been not been mentally ill.
As far as escaping your parents or developing your sexuality, neither a lockable door nor a bed are necessary for those things. You may have to go outside your own home once in a while though.
Look I think the OP needs some perspective, but stepping back for a minute to look around at the world... are you sure that's an unreasonable suggestion?
Yes I do think that's an unreasonable suggestion considering the vast amount of time our species has been on this planet, we were small groups of hunter-gatherers and there's not, as far as I know, widespread mental illness amongst modern hunter-gatherers.
And those hunter gatherers often all live together as one single tribe. Not only do the children not have their own rooms, no one does. Let alone locks.
Homie, it was a joke about the state of the world. I recognise your username, we are often arguing the same points in threads so I think we agree on a lot. There's no need to come at me all serious, I was just trying to give you a wry smile.
Sorry, this other guy who doesn't understand the concept of mental illness got my goat.
I think a child has a better chance of turning out just fine with loving parents and sharing a room with bunk beds with their sibling than going to a foster family and split from their siblings, but at least they have their own room!
My brother in Christ, please, for your own sake, touch grass.
Hello, Cult of Ignorance.
“Your boos mean nothing, I’ve seen what makes you cheer.”
Not having your own room as a kid isn't abuse.
Someone has had a really sheltered existence.