Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
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!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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@MareOfNights@discuss.tchncs.de hoping you'll see this as well
kind of feel weird about you both using trans men as demonstrating your argument without either of you actually being trans. there are as many kinds of trans men as there are cis, and you can find examples of those of us who enjoy conforming to stereotypical masculinity and those of us who don't
it's also fairly presumptuous to assume every trans person's goal is to pass, and also to presume the intent behind the goal of passing
honestly even presuming that trans men are asking how to be men, instead of defining it for themselves, is very presumptuous
like, the points you're making, in general, aren't bad. but it kind of feels icky to presume a minority's goal and to also use it as an argument, when that minority's reasoning is wide and varied. i think most people don't like being treated like a monolith and i think that applies here, too
trans men were also largely unnecessary for the arguments you were making. a lot of it could be said for people who want to or enjoy (or don't!) presenting masculine, regardless of sex assigned at birth. the answer to the author's question, why should we have positive examples of masculinity, really boils down to, because some people like being masculine, but not toxic. trans men aren't really special in that regard
anyways, keep in mind that i don't speak for all trans men, but this trans man felt weird about this, like i'm being referenced as a demographic with no regard for what being in the demographic is like. thanks for reading