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The title pretty much says it all. I've always struggled to connect with others, but the farther I find myself outside of societal norms, the harder it gets.

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[โ€“] janabuggs@beehaw.org 11 points 7 months ago

Yes! Absolutely yes! But, those people do exist. They're just a bit harder to find. This might help

https://slingshotcollective.org/radical-contact-list/

Eventually you can build a massive bubble if you find the right places to be. That includes your job, your friends, your acquaintances, your grocery store and more. When I interact with full on normies it is so deeply jarring, because I do it so rarely.

But honestly you can still get lonely in that situation because you found your people and you still can't connect. So I'd say it's most important to be able to address loneliness in the self. Become someone you want to hang out with. Do interesting things and pay attention to non human things for a bit, like birds or interesting plants on walks, or volunteer with a community garden. Go full DIY, start biking, get a dog. If you're single and not tied down you could go woofing for a bit, travel the world for free. Volunteer at hostiles and go solo backpacking until you either fall in love with yourself or some random person or two or three. Dang but also remind yourself that it's ok and normal to be lonely. You can give yourself that space, but you will always be lonely if you cannot love to be around yourself.

Wow my edible kicked in while I was writing that and it's either insane or helpful, but my sentiment is, I hope you never feel lonely for too long. Reach out anytime. Love ya, friend.