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Fellow auties, which do you find is a better and healthier fit for you: dating another autistic person or an NT? (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

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I'm really confused about this. On one hand (✋), I can see how dating an autistic person would be amazing because we would just understand each other on another level. We would get each other's emotions, meltdowns, joy, special interests, hyperfocus, communication style, etc. Also, there's no NT partner to miss whatever NT thing we don't bring to the relationship.

On the other hand (🤚), we definitely have some deficiencies that NTs don't. Having an NT can help us regulate, keep us updated on social matters that we completely miss, take care of a baby that's wailing crying, and other strengths that we just don't have, while at the same time, we contribute with our own strengths that they don't have.

NTs, please feel free to contribute! Your opinion and experiences are important too 🙂

I'd love to see a discussion on this topic. So what do you think?

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[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 8 months ago

I didn't realize I was ND for the longest time, until my doctor brought it up.

I dated quite a few ND folks of different flavors. Some of them I thought were NT but later got a diagnosis.

I am friends with NT people, but I just tend to gravitate towards ND romantically. I don't even think I consciously do it. It's a lot easier to be myself around folks that just "get it" I suppose.

My current partner (ND) and I can play off of each other's strengths. Our shortcomings are not symmetrical at all so we can manage quite well. An example is that I am very organized. I can make sure nothing falls through the cracks. My partner is quite disorganized, but is really good at focusing on tiny minute details of her current task and pulling together something amazing.

I do like hearing from my NT friends and we do sometimes discuss things like current events and things that have happened around us. We like discussing the things that we got and the things we missed. But romantically? I'm not sure if that is for me. Special interests? Missed cues? Weird things I'm particular about? My NT friends can handle that in small doses from me, but I'm not sure they could handle it full time.