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As I get older into adulthood I feel like more and more things require my attention. Trying to juggle work, family, home maintenance etc I'm constantly busy. I can almost never find time to rest because there is always something that has to be done. How do you find time to rest and cope with the stress but also get the things on your plate complete?

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[โ€“] grabyourmotherskeys@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I am 51, married, we both work full time, my wife's job is far more demanding in stress and hours but I am at a senior level working 9-5 mostly.

We own a home and our one kid is in elementary school.

I have systems I use at work and home to track everything in responsible for with deadlines if they need deadlines.

I don't overdo my at home productivy. It's largely governed by family priorities and I get very, very little discretionary time.

Stress affects me on a few levels. I have chronic illnesses that are aggravated by it and a history of letting it get out of hand. I'm getting too old to be stressed out guy now so I have learned to recognize when I'm stressed, how it is negatively affecting me and those around me, and then how I can take five and cool off.

I also get nicely toasted (legally) on a very low dose of THC with CB-whatever (trying cbn for sleep now) about an hour before bed and spend some time by myself (I go to bed last) just being "me". I write a page of fiction (don't ask, it's crap, just for me) or journal a little or so some quiet tidying, etc. That really helps. I also need it to help my sleep so it's a double benefit.