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As I get older into adulthood I feel like more and more things require my attention. Trying to juggle work, family, home maintenance etc I'm constantly busy. I can almost never find time to rest because there is always something that has to be done. How do you find time to rest and cope with the stress but also get the things on your plate complete?

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[โ€“] outbound@lemmy.ca 46 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I learned a long time ago to take control of my life, decide what's important to me and what's not, and plan things out including time to relax/vacation/disconnect (by which I mean everything from taking an hour break at lunchtime, to deciding to go out for a hike on Sunday, to taking a three-week snowboarding trip). The biggest problem will always be others trying to manipulate you to do things that they want you to do; you have to learn to be direct and say "no". You also have to learn to deal with "doing what is expected of you" / "doing what is socially acceptable" / "keeping up appearances"; you have to decide what you're going to do and not let these things drag you down.

Sorry... that isn't really advice, or five top-tips for organizing your schedule, or how-to-deal-with-demanding-people... its just a bit of a harsh statement to f*ckin' take control of your life and be confident in your decisions.

This is really, really good advice, actually. Learning this early in life was something I did not do and wish I did. :)