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Being emotionally available is underrated (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/lotrmemes@midwest.social

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[–] copymyjalopy@sh.itjust.works 54 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Sure, the last time I tried to be tender and emotional like this my wife mocked me for crying. Do I wish for close relationships like this with my fellow men, yes but there's no room for it for some of us. Toxic masculinity is also expressed by the women in our society (USA)

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 26 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

So what if you get mocked for not being "manly"? Man up and double down. Tell her a real man knows it's ok to show emotions from time to time

[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 9 months ago (2 children)

You can't demand people accept you because they just won't. If this guy's wife doesn't respect emotional expression that's not likely changing.

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 14 points 9 months ago

This isn't the internet. People who respect you IRL will either listen or debate with you

[–] A_Toasty_Strudel@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago

And they SHOULD NOT BE MARRIED

[–] systemglitch@lemmy.world 19 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Find a better human to be your wife.

[–] VaultBoyNewVegas@lemmy.world 13 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I know that's an extreme comment but I couldn't imagine being with someone where I have to be guarded or keep walls up, that's really unhealthy.

[–] systemglitch@lemmy.world 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

There is no reality where I would expose myself to that kind of abuse, because it is abuse. Anyone mocked for having emotions is being abused.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I would find far more contentment being alone and free to cry when needed than being afraid to show emotion around someone who is supposed to love and support me.

I suppose I'm lucky to be with someone who has expressed satisfaction at the fact I don't bottle up my emotions.

[–] UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 1 points 9 months ago

If you can't put down your arms with the people you love, it's not true love