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The desire to have a romantic partner is associated with lower life satisfaction, but more so in older adults (www.psypost.org)

submitted 1 year ago by xptiger@lemmy.world to c/general@lemmy.world

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Insight: is it realistic to anyone in observed real life that people more desire to find a romantic partner as they less/really don't enjoy life overall? So, will a person be prone to chasing a lovelife when he doesn't live well and happily?

Furthermore, Unsatisfied life has a negative effect to relationship building and further even marriage and family too (I've read articles and heard memoirs and watched entertainment variously many times, and so I agree. Maybe with diligence, I'll put such article references asap.) So how could a person achieve/suceed lovelife if he's already (in the beginning) unsatisfied with every other aspect of his life wholly while his any latter relationship may apparently fail upon his unsatisfied life? A contradiction or paradox? He might end up into hopeless romantic or just pathetically miserable man/spouse (hopefully not).

Out of topic: I wish there were a (sister) community of meirl, a discussion and seriousness of focusing and analyzing the real life (opposite of meirl community sharing of memes, pics and short texts).

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[–] miega@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like we all have our needs, each of the needs are on a spectrum, so some people want romantic relationship more than others, i.e. some people have very high sex drives and some people have virtualy none. So people who have this need high in their list and it's not fulfilled will be less satisfied with life.

Although it would be interesting to see the bigger picture of their social life, like maybe those less satisfied people in the story are lonelier overall, so it's not specific to romantic relationship, but having less social relationship, because for a lot of people romantic partner fulfills big part of their social needs.

[–] ElectroVagrant@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Although it would be interesting to see the bigger picture of their social life, like maybe those less satisfied people in the story are lonelier overall, so it’s not specific to romantic relationship, but having less social relationship, because for a lot of people romantic partner fulfills big part of their social needs.

Another angle to this that I think would be interesting to evaluate are social pressures to have partners affecting solitary satisfaction, and in certain circumstances, the social tendencies some have of shrinking their social circles once they have a partner (either to other couples only or their partner & family). Both would have interesting effects on solo folks, and especially the latter if they find their friends gradually leaving them to focus on their family lives.