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How to meet people (lemmy.world)
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by MissJinx@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 

I'm 41F. I was married but separated 8 years ago. I was still young but was very traumatized and never really wanted another relationship. Lately I've been feeling a little lonely and would like to meet some new people but I moved and don't have many friends here and the ones I have are younger and do younger people things (like going out at night. I'm too old for that lol). I wanted to meet some people my age, friends or dates, but almost everyone is married. I do cooking and French classes but again, only young people do that and I'm the "odd old lady". I think people past 40 don't really have hobbies or money to spend on them. I'm overweight so I can't really use apps, and to be honest don't really want. So how a single woman without kids (can't have it) meet people?! Or do I just give up?! lol

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[โ€“] pavnilschanda@lemmy.world 78 points 9 months ago (3 children)

What about volunteering groups? I'm in my 20s but volunteering groups tend to have people on the older side. It helps that people in their 40s and over tend to be financially stable and would spend their free time to volunteer.

[โ€“] MissJinx@lemmy.world 28 points 9 months ago

You're right I'll try!

[โ€“] phanto@lemmy.ca 13 points 9 months ago

I second this. I help people at the library with their computer stuff, and it gets me out of the house and makes me feel like I am contributing. Much underrated feeling.

[โ€“] psion1369@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I'm going to second this one. I volunteer for an air museum and it's folks from late 30s and up.

Edit: accidentally submitted before I was done typing