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For context, I like working with people that I am on friendly terms (like go out for drinks Friday after work) and I have the privilege to be able to avoid work environments where that's not possible.
IMO I don't think it's about the words, but the meaning of what you say. You can say a coffee is hot, but say that about the new receptionist and you deserve jail time (sexual harassment is a serious issue). The worst things someone could say don't involve any "bad" words, like a male colleague turning to the only woman in the meeting after making a remark about motherhood.
Context is always important too, once I heard someone say "the motherfucker keeps pooping allover the place" referring to a service that was particularly nasty after an update (programmer lingo).
Personally, I hate passive aggression, I am autistic I just speak my mind, and I don't understand it when others don't.