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Why would one crave pleasure, food and entertainment when they should be productive and how does one go about stopping it? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 10 months ago by Subject6051@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I should be studying right now, but everytime I sit to study, I can't sit there long enough, I want food even though I am not hungry, I want to watch TV/youtube, self-pleasure... etc...

No matter what productive work I want to do, I will try to not do that and do something which gives me momentary pleasure. I want to masturbate, eat lots of food even though I am not hungry while watching TV/Youtube and I don't seem to be able to break the cycle and it's destroying me. How can I break the cycle and do something good for a change instead of pleasuring myself in the moment meaninglessly?

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[–] fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You need practice at concentrating on your work.

In the same way you'd work out to build muscle strength, your mind needs regular training to stay in shape.

Start with sensible, achievable goals and improve over time.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Start with tiny goals. Not just achievable but almost trivially achievable.

Goal 1 could be: wait ten seconds before the next time I open social media

This is what’s meant by “baby steps”

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 10 months ago

Yeah I do this to break my inertia.

"I'm not actually going to do any work, just clear my desk, then 5 minutes youtube"

"I'm not actually going to do any work, I'm just going to get my books / laptop out, then do whatever thing for 5 minutes"

... and so on ...