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Albuquerque NM vs Columbus OH. (lemmy.ml)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by ULS@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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What do you think is best for a poor just coming out gay guy in his 30s trying to escape the things that come with street life. I am also more interested in older people than people my own age. Afaik there is no place for me.

I fully assume I'll end up homeless but I have to leave.

I'm open to other areas too. Definitely away from north east/new England. Preferably away from East Coast.... Preferably near the ocean or a good lake... I don't want to be stuck in crime or around homophobes.

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[–] zeusbottom@sh.itjust.works 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

ABQ is not quite Wild West, but you do need to watch yourself there. Good farmers’ market and plenty of Native influence.

Columbus downtown seemed like a nice Midwestern spot, touch of Rust Belt, heavy on Buckeye mania of course. Seemed really quiet when I visited many summers ago.

Have you considered Chicago? Boystown is a great neighborhood. Kinda wished I’d lived there even though I’m not LGBTQ. I think it’s still relatively low crime. But I’m sure you’ll want to do (or have done) your own homework on that.

[–] ULS@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I kinda of thought about Chicago. I'm trying to stay away from the bigger cities for now. Even Cleveland OH.

[–] funkforager@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

Columbus is a bigger population than Cleveland. It’s kind of the bigger city these days.

I was going to say that if you want a lake then you want Cleveland, not Columbus. Also there is an inner suburb of Cleveland called Lakewood you should check out. It has a great LGBTQ+ scene (for a smaller city) and is super welcoming in that friendly midwestern way.